Please post all of the wonderful memories you had with Dave.

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  1. Rose Marceau says:


    My Prayer for you, Dave, because You are someone Special and have touched so many hearts: Psalm 23

    The LORD is my Shepherd, I shall not want.
    He makes me to lie down in green pastures, He leads me beside the quiet waters, He restores my soul.
    He guides me in paths of righteousness for His name’s sake.
    Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for You are with me.
    Your rod and staff, they comfort me.
    You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies.
    You anoint my head with oil, my cup overflows.
    Surely goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, And I will dwell in the House of the LORD forever. Amen

  2. Jared Coderre says:

    We shared many good times within the three years I got to know you. Some highlights were picking up your new Harley and seeing the smile on your face when Eleanor was sitting on it with you. Going Deep sea fishing with you, Elle, your dad, mom, and Elle’s Dad. Riding around New Hampshire during BIKE-WEEK and ripping it up at night. Our mutual love for Sushi and enjoyment of trying different kinds.

    I learned how to be more patient from you and a bit less cynical. Your resilience to the incessant teasing I gave you and your ability to throw a good one or two back. Probably your most endearing qualities were your passion for trying new things and love for Eleanor.

    I still crack up when I think of the comical names we created for things and people. Last night I listened to a VM stored on my phone from you. You said “Hey Doctor, lets get together for some “Sush-ma-Gush” (code for Sushi) and plan some rides for the summer, Diamond Dave Out”.

    I hope your getting on OK in your new place, I hope the roads are long , your tanks is always full, the wind in your face, and sun at your back. Ride on brother, we’ll catch up at the next cross road, till then keep the rubber down. The Doctor

  3. Ryan Marceau says:

    Dave, I’m so happy to have had you in my life… I’ll never stop thinking about the times we spent together…

    I remember moving into the house next door to yours when we were 5 years old. We used to play in your sandbox and ride bikes up and down the street—still sorry about the time I threw the ball at you and it made you flip over the handle bars…it was a fun game until then ;).

    Throughout high school, college, and starting our professional lives, we have always been there for each other. You have touched so many lives and connected so many people who otherwise would have never known each other—perhaps that was your purpose in life; to bring us all together…

    I’m sure I’ll see you again someday, at some epic party no doubt… and when I get there, like always, my name will already be on your VIP list and I’ll see your huge smile waiting on the other side of the door.

    My life and so many others are better because of you. Your spirit will live on in the connections you made while you were here.

    Thank you so much for being my friend.


  4. Sarah Laduzenski says:

    Thank you so much to Dave’s friends. You all helped to make his short time here with all of us full of happiness and vibrance. It is AMAZING the outpouring of love that has come from you all. He is smiling down on us all with that brilliant perfect smile of his, ready to help us in any way he can to get us through our struggles of sorrow and pain. He is everywhere, at our sides, holding our hands. He will be with us all forever.

  5. Erica Randall says:

    Dave, since I met you at the ski house, you treated me as if we had been friends for years. You and Eleanor radiated positive energy together, I couldn’t help but smile around you. You are incredibly loved and missed and my heart goes out to your family, friends and your love, Eleanor.
    An Irish prayer for you, my friend.
    “Do not stand at my grave and weep,
    I am not there, I do not sleep.
    I am in a thousand winds that blow,
    I am the softly falling snow.
    I am the gentle showers of rain,
    I am the fields of ripening grain.
    I am in the morning hush,
    I am in the graceful rush
    Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
    I am the starshine of the night.
    I am in the flowers that bloom,
    I am in a quiet room.
    I am in the birds that sing,
    I am in each lovely thing.
    Do not stand at my grave bereft
    I am not there. I have not left.”

    • Ed Apostle says:

      Beautiful. This was my father prayer….funny you picked it as my father loved Dave like a son and when Dave was in town he always stopped by to see what “Mr. Apostle” was up to….

  6. Lauren says:

    It’s a good thing I forced Dave to meet me for dinner last time I was in Boston. Sitting across from him and sharing a meal and a story is the best way I could ever remember anyone.
    From childhood to adulthood, he never seemed to be afraid of anything or anyone. His outstanding zest for life made everyone want to take each new day as a new beginning. It was Dave that always brought everyone together through ski trips and fun times. He was one in a million and the world will forever be missing a smile.

  7. Dawn Reid on behalf of Phyllis Bugden (Dolla) says:

    This story is from my grandmother Phyllis, long time neighbor who lived across the street from David and his family on Greystone Ave.
    “He was a good boy, such a nice boy. I remember telling him about a bird nest that had been built over my front door and how excited he was about it. He was so small at the time (coming from a woman who’s 5’4 herself) I had to lift him up so he could see and the sight of the baby birds tickled him to no end. ” She is deeply saddened to hear of the loss of such a wonderful soul and her thoughts and prayers go out to his entire family.

    • Ryan Marceau says:


      So nice to hear from you. I remember swimming in Dolla’s pool with you and Dave in the summer. We always looked forward to when you all would come up in the summer.

      Ryan (across the street from Dolla)

      • Dawn Reid on behalf of Phyllis Bugden (Dolla) says:

        Great memories, great times – hide and seek in the dark with what felt like a million kids, evening badminton at the Lad’s, swimming in Dolla’s pool (Dave always wearing the speedo swim goggles), my older brothers claiming to go visit Dave so they could hang out with Sarah… I feel so lucky to have had a Grandma across the street from all of you!

        • Sheryle Marceau says:

          Please thank Dolla for her wonderful words of comfort. I remember the kids all loving to go swimming in the inground pool she had. I remember when her dog ate Ryan’s snowy boots I had left on the porch! She immediately gave me $20 to buy new ones! It is so thoughtful of her to respond & great to hear from her! Give her my best. Sheryle from accross the street & Ryan, Michael, and Brendan’s mom.

  8. Fred and Cathy Sullivan says:

    One fun thought is when we were walking down the Boulivard in Gloucester on a beautiful summer night and Dave and Eleanor were driving by on the motorcycle and stopped and we had a nice chat. Happy memory of a special person. God bless him and his family and Eleanor and all who love them.

  9. Bill says:


    I will never forgive myself for holding a stupid grudge with you for the last 4 months. I can’t believe that we never had a chance to set things right. I only knew you for a few years, but we developed our bond quickly and I definitely considered you one of my closest friends. When I bought my first condo, you were the first one there to help me move. When I was away on my engagement trip, you were the first one calling to find out if it had happened so you could share in my excitement. We had so many great times together- boats, watching lost, drinking your dad’s wine, spinning John’s Halloween parties- the list goes on. I just can’t believe you have been taken from us so unnecessarily. You will be sorely missed.

    Your friend,

  10. Tim Douglas says:

    I had been home from Iraq for about one or two months and went online. I saw that Dave had posted something on Facebook about going out that night. Granted I lived about an hour and a half away I wrote to Dave and told him I’d drive to his house and we could go out. Dave brought me to a club called Rumor. Somehow Dave knew who the promotion manager was so we got right in and treated pretty well. After a couple hours of chatting and cocktails I managed to climb up on a table and start dancing while Dave took a picture with some lovely ladies. I didn’t recall it until Dave showed me the picture. It was a great night.

    I also went out to Boston a few years ago to a wine tasting event. We met up with Dave and his friend for dinner. Dave took us to China Town and ordered a bottle of Sake. We all did a shot before we ate. I don’t think we were too fond of the Sake so Dave decided to finish the bottle. He was doing well until we got onto the T and it hit him all at once. Dave was smiling and saying that the Sake was kicking in. It was pretty funny.

    I also remember that airhorn he put in that sky blue Buick when we were in high school. Too funny.

    Looking back on it I wish I had hung out with Dave more often than I did and I regret every second of it. I miss you, Dave. I hope that someday we will meet again.

  11. Liz says:

    Dear Dave,

    I don’t remember exactly when I met you, but it had to have been sixth grade. I remember getting my very first detention because you (of all people!) called me a toothpick. I chased you down the hallway, because that was what we did those days, probably yelling “I AM NOT A TOOTHPICK” or “GOOD THINGS COME IN SMALL PACKAGES!” like my mother had taught me to do….and then you suddenly bent over, and I went flying into a teacher’s rear end. I got a detention, which didn’t make my parents happy, but it is quite a funny story that I still tell to this day.

    My favorite memories of you are from high school and beyond. We worked at Storrowton together during one of those summer camps. You, Emily, and I all wore stupid costumes like straw hats and bonnets, and yet we made it fun for all the kids and each other. That is what I will remember most about you — your ability to make people laugh, dance, and just be themselves. I’m so, so glad I asked you and Ryan to be our dates to Heather’s wedding because now I have those memories (and pictures) with you to remember you by as well. I knew if you two came that it would be a night to remember…

    I just want to say that I’m so sorry. I’m sorry I kind of lost contact and only talked to you a few times a year. I always wished I could go on the ski trips each spring, but vacations aren’t easy to take as a teacher. Now I feel like I should’ve gone, even if it was for just a night, to see you guys and have fun. I’ll always regret that I didn’t go now.

    So I guess this is my kind of goodbye. Thank you for being you. You will be missed by so many people, Dave.

    Love always,

  12. Heather Kocsany says:


    I don’t think I could ever communicate entirely what it meant to have had the opportunity to call you my friend. Every memory I have puts a smile on my face. So many memories and so many great times.

    I’m glad you were able to come to my wedding and share such a special time in my life. I will always look back at my pictures, your smiling face, and remember how special of a friend you were. Dave, you were always one-of-a-kind and for that I will be forever grateful.

    Much love to you,


  13. Greg Bossie says:

    The first time I met Dave my sister and I were out from California visiting family in Maine and we wanted to spend a few days hanging out in Boston. We couldn’t really afford a hotel room so I called my good friend Nate to ask if he knew anyone that might let us crash on their floor. He sent me Dave’s number and a few days later we found ourselves welcomed with open arms into a complete strangers house. We quickly became friends and what was supposed to be one or two days turned into I think four. Dave trusted us with everything and did it with a huge smile on his face. I feel so fortunate to have had the opportunity to be part of Dave’s life, he brought nothing but smiles and good times into mine and inspired me to love and laugh like there was no tomorrow.

  14. Kelly Mann says:

    I remember Dave with his big boat of a car in High School. I remember his big smile and goofy laugh. He was an excellent and determined percussionist. His energy and love of life was infectious. He always had a way of lightening the mood and making people laugh. It was hard to be in a bad mood around Dave.
    I know all of the wonderful memories we all have of Dave will help ease the pain of our loss. But we will never stop missing him.

  15. Sheryle Marceau says:

    I’ve been having trouble finding the words, and finally realized that there are no words to descibe the depth of my sadness and sorrow for having lost David. Dave grew up right next door with my boys, but was especially close to Ryan, as they were the same age and played together since age 5 when we moved in, went to school together, were in the band together, traveled together, graduated together. Even lived right near each other in Sommerville for the past few years. I have so many memories of those early years, like David climbing up onto the cinder block left in the shrub bed in order to peer into the front room window to see if anyone was home, looking for Ryan, no doubt. Scared the hell out of me to see a face suddenly in the window! After a while I got used to it and would just holler to Ryan “David’s here, go let him in”. I considered Dave another one of my own, as I have all of the close friends to my sons over the years… he was one of my “other” sons. He was always smiling that big cheesy grin, always happy. The light of the room, a true ray of sunshine! He was so charming, even as an adult, he would come over & give me a hug & tell me I looked great, or compliment me in some way..say he liked my hair..always something. A real gentleman, and I give the credit for that to his wonderful parents for raising him to be such a special human being!
    My sorrow for his passing, Don & Ann Marie and Sarah’s loss, Eleanor’s loss, and the loss to all of his extended family & friends, many of whom I know and are like family to me, is beyond desciption. The world has lost a wonderful person, but is a better place for him having been a part of it. Dave was a unique and loving gift from God to us.
    I know he remains with us. Such an exceptional, exuberant & caring spirit can never be extinguished. David made his mark, and it will never disappear. He is here with us, and will live on in the hearts of his cherished family, friends & loved ones forever.

    • Sheryle Marceau says:

      The Rose Beyond the Wall

      Near a shady wall a rose once grew,
      Budded and blossomed in God’s free light,
      Watered and fed by the morning dew,
      Shedding it’s sweetness day and night.

      As it grew and blossomed fair and tall,
      Slowly rising to loftier height,
      It came to a crevice in the wall
      Through which there shone a beam of light.

      Onward it crept with added strength
      With never a thought of fear or pride,
      It followed the light through the crevice’s length
      And unfolded itself on the other side.

      The light, the dew, the broadening view
      Were found the same as they were before,
      And it lost itself in beauties new,
      Breathing it’s fragrance more and more.

      Shall claim of death cause us to grieve
      And make our courage faint and fall?
      Nay! Let us faith and hope receive–
      The rose still grows beyond the wall,

      Scattering fragrance far and wide
      Just as it did in days of yore,
      Just as it did on the other side,
      Just as it will forevermore.

      ~ A. L. Frink ~

  16. Colby Gallagher says:

    I met Dave my freshman year of high school. I’ll always remember Dave and his boat of car with the annoying horn. He actually tricked me into helping him install that stupid thing in the driveway of my house either before or after one of his drum lessons he took with my stepfather. Needless to say he “messed up” and was able to get me hold the wires in place under the hood while he was “testing it”. I recall having a small headache after that 🙂 . I also remember around new years into 1999, he driving around playing Prince’s “Party like it is 1999”, and if I remember right he had black lights in that car. And I think everyone from band recalls his dances with Ethan to “I touch myself”, First in Florida with the horrible bug glasses and tear away pants and again at band camp with the aid of Brent and the mustang. Honestly, I don’t think I have a memory of Dave that doesn’t make me chuckle. Who else but Dave would have the energy to be joking around at 5am swim practice and blare Juvenille’s”Back that thang up”.

    I think that everyone who has had their life touched my Dave is feeling true sorrow and remorse. My heart goes out to his family, his girlfriend and that whole pack of friends who to me always seemed more like siblings than merely friends.

    Thank you Dave for always making us all laugh. We miss you.

  17. Ben Fialkov says:

    I remember the first time I met Dave at George’s Island. He was introduced as El’s boyfriend and had a contagious smile that lit up the room! Eleanor and I began to talk about music and Dave interjected by saying, “El has the most beautiful voice he had ever heard!” That was the first moment where I recognized how deeply he loved her. Any opportunity he had to talk about her, he would. It was very clear that she was not only his best friend, but also someone he admired and looked up to. Dave touched the lives of many people and always put his friends and family in front of himself. For my past few birthdays, Dave would take the time to look up how to wish me a happy birthday in Hebrew…not because he felt he had to, but because he wanted to show me he valued me and our friendship. This past summer, Dave invited me to go hiking for the weekend. I had such a great time and will never forget that weekend! After Niels warned me about jumping on the trampoline and later finding out that the act caused me a broken tailbone, Dave offered to help by going to look for ice for me. It took him over 10 minutes, but he found some and it really helped. Having the opportunity to go skiing and hiking with him, seeing him at his christmas party with the look on his face when I brought him Sushi, Halloweens, birthdays, and just spending time hanging out with him over these past two years are memories I will treasure forever. He was always there as a friend and I feel so lucky to have been able to be his friend. He had such a warm heart and will never be forgotten!!!

  18. Ethan Doss says:

    I had’t seen Dave in years, and I am so sorry I hadn’t. Reading all these messages and reconnecting with people from home has recalled some incredible moments I feel honored to have shared with with Dave.

  19. Jason says:

    I met Dave the first time at one of the wonderful Fourth of July Parties. He handed me a beer with a great big smile, and it was all downhill as we got into talking motorcycles. In fact, Dave gave Annie her first ever motorcycle ride just this last summer. We lost our brother.

    In a letter, Robert Frost once related the last two stanzas of a poem to his love of a woman named Elinor, which is close enough for me:

    Nothing on either side was said.
    They knew they had but to stay their stay
    And all their logic would fill my head:
    As that I had no right to play
    With what was another man’s work for gain.
    My right might be love but theirs was need.
    And where the two exist in twain
    Theirs was the better right–agreed.

    But yield who will to their separation,
    My object in living is to unite
    My avocation and my vocation
    As my two eyes make one in sight.
    Only where love and need are one,
    And the work is play for mortal stakes,
    Is the deed ever really done
    For Heaven and the future’s sakes.:

  20. Maura Bertolino says:

    I have so many great memories of Dave, I don’t even know where to begin. But more importantly, I will never forget the way he worshiped the ground you walked on, Eleanor. The way he looked at you, the way he would gush about you every time you left the room. Every time you would even just simply stand up he would look at me and say “I am the luckiest guy in the world”. How proud he always was of you when you were up on stage or just finishing a painting. You were always leaving him in a state of awe. And let’s not ever forget his obsession with your blonde hair..he loved that blonde hair more than his motorcycle. He even named his motorcycle after you (Eleanor Harley). The love between you guys does not get any deeper…and I am positive that the love between you two will never be lost. You will pick up right where you left off when you meet again.


  21. Rachel says:

    I met Dave in September 2009. As the significant other of my friend, Eleanor, he accompanied her to my wedding and reception. From the moment I met him, it felt like we’d known each other for years and years. He was ebullient, so full of life and energy and zest, and he didn’t hesitate to hug me back when I threw my arms around him to say how nice it was to finally meet him. I knew from that moment why Eleanor had fallen for him. And, I could see by the way he looked at her just how deeply he loved her. Eleanor was, without question, the apple of his eye. His quintessential “other half.” His soul mate. I hadn’t seen Eleanor so happy before as when she was with Dave.

    Anyway, I had so much fun dancing the night away with both Dave and Eleanor at my wedding reception. Who doesn’t love a guy who’s not afraid to wear the bride’s veil and dance in front of a bunch of people he doesn’t know!? 🙂 I am so glad to have met him, and so grateful that he gave Eleanor three of the best years of her life. I know he will be with her always, in spirit.

  22. Katie Pion says:

    One year for Dave’s birthday (probably his 16th), he had a party at his parents’ house. Knowing Dave as we did, all of his friends bought him ridiculous gifts and we laughed as he opened each one. My gift was sea monkeys, which just seemed like the perfect gift for Dave. Sure enough, it was a hit, and he kept the sea monkeys in his locker at school. I remember going to visit Dave’s locker to check on the sea monkeys every now and then. Not only did he now have living creatures in his locker, he also had battery-powered Christmas lights set up inside. I remember thinking that it was the coolest locker I had ever seen.

    In some strange way, those sea monkeys and Christmas lights represent everything I’ll always remember about Dave. He was fun, silly, and didn’t give a damn what anyone thought about him. Dave was Dave. He was genuine and unafraid to be himself – and that is why everyone loved and respected him so much. I hope we’ve all learned a little bit about how to live our lives from Dave.

    While we hadn’t been in touch as much over the past few years aside from a Facebook message here and there, I will always treasure my memories of Dave. He was a bit of a celebrity within my extended family as he also swam with a cousin of mine. My mom is heartbroken that he was taken so soon.

    Dave, your smile and laugh will forever be in my heart. Thanks for the memories and the friendship. You are so very missed.

    • Sheryle Marceau says:

      Love it! Thank you for sharing that typically humorous story! Made me laugh.

    • Ed Apostle says:

      Thats so Dave… =) KP you made me smile with that story. I remember that party and if I remember correctly I think the sea monkeys were his favorite present that day!

  23. poppa crum says:

    I have known David since he was 10 years old. He was like an adopted son to us. I always enjoyed it when he called me poppa crum!

    My heart aches for his family.

    • Sheryle Marceau says:

      Dear Poppa
      He was an adopted son to me as well. I share your grief and heartbreak for his family. You are Poppa Crum to many, my dear friend & schoolmate! You make a difference in many young lives! So proud of you! <3

  24. Tiffany Hebert Dickey says:

    Dear Dave,

    I’ll always remember you for your precise humor, your wit, your incredibly blunt honesty, and your love for each new day and new moment.

    You were always so silly about my hair… you loved to play with my hair! I never quite understood it and told you I didn’t quite get it. But, years later when I was 9 months pregnant and feeling not so pretty, I remember my friend Dave… always telling me that my greatest attribute was my long brown hair… thanks for that.

    You were also part of my becoming known as “Mama” Tiff. Yes, I always had some sort of first aid, beverage, or snack in my backpack that you would ask to access on a regular basis. I’m glad that you thought of me as a friend you could ask to help take care of you…. thanks for making me feel like I had a place in “our group”.

    I was always so amazed at how fast you could swim… and laugh even now as think back to the shaving parties before big meets in the girls locker room! I’ll also never forget the wild bikini dance with Ethan in Florida… the “crazy” came out around the pool I guess!

    You were a great musician… I always respected how you were never afraid to speak up to ‘Doc’… you had guts man.

    Don’t forget the fuzzy pink dice in addition to that ridiculous horn! The WSHS parking lot will never be the same. 🙂

    You helped me get through the loss of my grandmother whom I was so close to. You were there and let me talk… you listened.. and helped me find the light in such a somber time in my life.

    My last memories are of you dancing… dancing and smiling, holding the woman you loved with your whole heart, with your friends all around. I’m so blessed that I got to see you again after a lapse in years. I know that in your last days you were happier than you have ever been…

    You are a light, a shining star, a twinkle of laughter that brought such great memories to my highschool days. I’m sad that we lost touch as we went through college… but am so glad for the gift that the internet is, that put us back in touch. I’m so deeply sad for your loss to this world, but I truly believe that you are “in a place of light and refreshment” and that I will see you again someday, dancing in the sunshine and singing at the top of your lungs.

    My thoughts and prayers are with those whom your loved most in this world… my words are worthless to try and express the sympathy I’m am feeling and the sadness in my heart for such a wonderful person as yourself.

    I’m not sure that you really knew how many people your humor and smile touched throughout your 29 years… but look down now… I am just one of many.

    Your, Mama Tiff

  25. Gregory Bertolino says:

    Dave was a caring and compassionate person who made making other people happy his priority, and you only have to see that famous smile once to know how true that is. Dave’s positive attitude and zest for life was infectious. Dave made everything fun whether it was striper fishing in Gloucester, Loon Trips, walking around looking for the next adventure, talking about engineering design of products and how to make them better, awing over anything with an engine…… and as I write I realize Dave had the intelligence, interest, and skill to do anything. He gave people the confidence to try things that they felt they would never have the strength to do. Thanks for the many things you taught me like being yourself, which must be easy when you have the personality of Dave. You will live on in all of us and continue to positively affect lives forever. I know you will never stop smiling and your legacy will live on in the smiles of those whose lives you have touched.

    • Ben Fialkov says:


      I would have never had the privilege of meeting such a wonderful person if it was not for you and Maura. For that I am eternally grateful and thank you from the bottom of my heart! -Ben

  26. Matt Boucher says:

    I remember having to play a certain bassline in jazz band in high school. Dave’s head always perked up if he heard me playing it. He said, “That’s from Sesame Street!” And then he would start singing it with me as if I was his very own real-life Sesame Street episode. He sang with the joy of a kid on Christmas morning, just for a little bassline. He found joy in everything and everybody. What a great way to live!

  27. Rob Wise says:


    I have been struggling to put a memory down on a paper for you so here it goes. We met when we were just little kids swimming in a big pool. Even back then you had that bug smile and infectious laugh that drew anyone in. I stopped swimming for a while and we had a little separation. Then when I got into high school i started to swim again and we were reconnected. Nothing had changed, you were still the same kid from when we were 7yrs old. It was like nothing had changed. You took me right back in to your life. It was like we had never been apart. Our coach was not the greatest guy but we made it fun. I can remember swimming the 500 free and i was the only one in the pool for each team. You were cheering like it was the Olympics and i was going for gold. That was such a great feeling knowing that I was not by myself and no matter how tired I got you were not going to let me go at it alone. We then graduated and went off to college. Again, we separated and did not really talk. I then got hired in West Springfield and we were brought back into each others lives through our great friends Ed and Tim. The ski trip was the first time I had seen you in yrs and again, nothing changed. I got a huge hug and a great to see you. With that huge smile and big personality that made me feel like not a day had gone by without us talking with each other. That was 2008 and since then we have been brought back together. I am so forever grateful that we got to reconnect and become close once again like when we were 7 and then again when we were 15. As I put my daughter to bed last night I told her that she has nothing to fear anymore. Her Uncle Dave is in heaven looking down upon her. She now has a guardian angel to look out for her. Dave, I love you kid. You will be in my thoughts forever and I cant wait for that day when i can to see you again and reconnect one last time!

  28. Jessica Stetson says:

    I met Dave when I was a sophomore in college. I’ll never forget the first night I met him. I don’t think any of us could. That smile – so infectious. He was just “The Juror” to me at the time. Over the next few years “The Juror” became “my friend, Crazy Dave” Anytime I visited Boston we would undoubtedly be going to to an insane party with Crazy Dave, and every time he would welcome me with open arms, as if we had been friends for years. I met so many wonderful wonderful people through him and for that I could never be more grateful. I’ll also never forget when Elle, his little Nor, came into his life. I saw a magical change in him and was inspired by his instant love and affection for Elle. Seeing them together was a true testament of true love. His smile and his spirit will forever live on. My heart goes out to you Elle and all his family and friends. We were so blessed to have known such an amazing, loving and overall outstanding man.

  29. Jonathan Leachman says:

    Dave was a really great friend through junior high and early high school. I remember riding bikes, playing that X-Wing computer game, and at one point attempting to fly a kite (with mixed success). I deeply regret that we drifted apart when we were 15, because he was truly a unique individual with a shining personality and a terrific sense of humor that frequently put a smile on my face.

    As our freshman year of high school was nearing its end (my last year in the school band), Dave practically forced me into the percussion try-out room, insisting to the seniors that I was good enough to play snare drum, something he knew I really wanted to do instead of cymbals. He stuck drumsticks in my hands and demanded that I play something on a wooden desk that was there, but I was too shy and didn’t do it. I don’t know whether or not I actually was good enough, but I remember this because Dave also played the snare, and there were few spots available, so this stands out for me as being extremely thoughtful and selfless. He did this despite the fact that, on multiple occasions, I had haughtily tried to show him up on the drumset, something I feel really lousy about now, and I wish I could apologize.

    Dave, I remember you as an extremely friendly, happy person with a big heart who seemed to really enjoy spreading it around as much as you could. I know you will be sorely missed.

  30. Karin Wise says:

    We all know of Dave’s smile and how it has touched all of us. I believe if he were here he would dedicate this song to us all, and the he would say ” anyone up for a beer?”

    Smile though your heart is aching
    Smile even though it’s breaking
    When there are clouds in the sky, you’ll get by
    If you smile through your fear and sorrow
    Smile and maybe tomorrow
    You”ll see the sun come shining through for you

    Light up your face with gladness
    Hide every trace of sadness
    Although a tear may be ever so near
    That’s the time you must keep on trying
    Smile, whats the use of crying?
    You”ll find that life is still worthwhile
    If you just smile

  31. Christine (Amato) Morissette says:

    I haven’t seen Dave in a while, since bumping into him at Stop & Shop in West Side while we were both home, hearing about how great Boston is.

    I’ll always remember him as the fun-loving guy who actually knew who the Big Bad Voodoo Daddies were at the Governor’s Ball. He was also the only person I knew who knew how to swing dance, and didn’t mind teaching me a few steps that night.

    Dave was so kind as to not let me go to my work Christmas party alone in ’98. We got lost trying to find our way home from Easthampton, having to use the ancient car phone in my car to call our parents to say we’d be late. That night I learned that East Moutain Rd. takes you wherever you want to go.

    It’s been years, but the memories are fresh and dear. The world will be a different place without him.

  32. Stephen Darrigo says:

    I met Dave through a group of great friends. Intoduced to me as “Crazy Dave”, he was always full of engery and laughter. An all around good person with alot of love and caring for everyone he knew. My favorite times were up at Mt. Snow, crazy games and crazy times. I will always remember Crazy Dave!

  33. Jody Rogers (Dubuque) says:

    I swam with Dave for many, many years on the Westfield YMCA swim team, and he was a very dear friend of mine during those years. He definitely kept us entertained…at practice, on the long bus rides to the away meets or at the day-long championships. He “lightened the mood” during those rough practices, which I’m sure the whole team was very thankful for 🙂 He brought those same positive qualities outside of the pool area where I was able to see an even more charismatic Dave. Although we lost contact after high school, I will forever hold those fond memories close to my heart. I am a very fortunate person just for having known him!

  34. Sophia (Perez) Rodriguez says:

    Dave your smile was infectious. I have memories of you on the swim team and in the band. All of them include that smile that can only come naturally the one that hits from one ear to the next. Well I moved away and hadn’t spoken to you in quiet sometime. Thanks to facebook I was reconnected with that smile that was so etched in my memory. We talked and looked forward to seeing and catching up at the reunion. It was crazy when we caught up at the reunion and we had a similiar career path and talked of all the great things in our lives.
    Your one great thing that I swear I could hear your heart smile was when you spoke to me of your beloved. How she made you light up made me happy to hear that you were ready to make this women your wife. It pains me to have that last memory of you, but that smile will forever be there.

  35. Michelle Bossie says:

    So hard to know where to start. David came into my life, or rather my brother and I came into his, as complete strangers. We were friend’s of Nate’s from California, and that is all that needed to be said. He welcomed us into his home and seemingly instantaneously into his heart. I will never forget the look on his face when El walked through the door to come meet us to go out that night; it lit up with a love I have never seem before. We spent the night out in Sommerville meeting their various friends and getting to know each other and the number one topic of conversation was how lucky he was to have found such a beautiful and talented lady to call his own. As she took the stage to sing karaoke he fixated on her, he beamed with love and pride and then he clapped like it was a show at the Grand Ole Opry. The only thing that amazed me more than his love and passion for El was the amazing James Brown dance moves that took place next as he stepped up to the stage. His smile and carefree air will stay with me forever. That first night my Brother and I spent with Dave and El set the stage for a friendship that we all knew was to be lifelong. Dave was always sure to encourage me about once a month to get my act together and move out to Boston so we could stop all of this facebook “poking” nonsense and get to the real fun of going on some serious East Coast Adventures. As my Brother and I returned to Boston the following Summer, it was like no time had passed at all, and then when they came to visit in California it seemed more like they were home with us than on vacation at all. How deeply I was looking forward to our visit this Summer.

    I have never met anyone with the same zest for life and uninhibited love for people as Dave, and the blessing of the memories I have with him will stay with me forever. My heart goes out to his family. Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful David with us, there is no way he would have been the man he was without you.

  36. Amber Palmerino says:

    Dave you were loved by so many. I hate that it is situations like these that reunites everyone. I would much rather be toasting to you and Elle at your wedding. I have so many memories with you over the last 4 years. Everything from the annual Saco canoe trip, John’s Halloween parties, the annual ski trip, all the birthday and holiday parties to your going away dinner to Vietnam. I am still in disbelief. From now on you will be remembered every time we gather. We will hold our glasses high and toast to you, the friendship we all had, and the inspiration you gave us all. I truly loved the friendship we had and will do my best to take care of your Nor for you. This is goodbye for now until we are all reunited once again. Just make sure you hold us all a VIP spot on the guest list! 😉

    Love Always,


  37. Brent Melloni says:

    It’s hard to put your finger on just one memory of Dave. He was such a big part of my high school years. One of the stand out memories I had with him was me and Dave in jazz band he was second stringer back up I think to Jules or pat. I was playing bass. Dave got to play two songs and one of them was zoot suit riot, witch let’s face it that song was all Dave. Just the excitement on his face to be able to play that song was great. I remember anytime we would be hanging around the band room he would beg me to go to the chorus room and play that song with him. That song and ” No more mr nice guy” he was like a kid in a candy store with a huge bag to fill up of candy. I remember when we put my vary first sound system into his Buick we spent all day in the freezing cold putting that thing in. He was so grateful and so excited. He Just had so much passion for everything. He was such a amazing guy. He was full of so much life.

  38. Pam says:

    I met Dave when he came to work at Product Insight a few years ago. I remember he had just started dating Eleanor. One day he told me that he was making dinner for his new girlfriend. He asked me what he should make because she did not eat meat. It did not take long to see that he was in love with her.

    On Monday mornings he would always tell me about his weekend, and often the stories were about the funny things that had happened. He was always smiling. I got to know about his family through the stories that he told. He would say “My mom makes the best sauce or cookies”. One day he brought in these really yummy peanut butter brownies that he made. He was so excited to share them!

    We were all so saddened to hear about what had happened when we got in on Monday morning. We are all still in shock. We will never be the same because we knew Dave. His desk is just the way he left it on Friday afternoon. Pad of paper he was using, with the pen sitting on it. Pictures of Eleanor, his lego cars, and of course ANOTHER parking ticket! We will miss you, but we all will hold the great memories in our hearts.

  39. Brrantley Mayo says:

    It had some very good times with Dave at the condo meetings and other projects around the condo. I’ll keep a place in my heart for Dave and his family and his fiance. He was a very good friend. We will all miss him. He was a very special person.

  40. Laura says:

    Sadly, I didn’t have the pleasure of knowing Dave nearly as well as I could have. Like many others, I can’t pin down just ONE good story about him. He was one of the nicest people I got to meet in HS and a HUGE loss. My heart goes out to his family, girlfriend and those who knew him best.

  41. Scott says:

    Hello, I didnt know Dave at all. I just saw it on the 10 o’clock news. i Just wanted to say that i am really sorry about all your loses. Try to keep your heads up

  42. Donna Marie says:

    I didn’t know your loved one Dave. I just saw this on the news and it’s heartbreaking. I wish to send my sincere heartfelt sympathy to his family, fiance and his friends. May you find peace & serenity in your time of sorrow. God Bless

  43. Brantley Mayo says:

    I would like to give all my condolences to all of Dave’ s Family and Fiance. I’ll keep you all in my heart.

  44. Kathy and Jon Rossman says:

    A sad, sad, tragedy to lose someone so special and such a blessing to others. We are so sorry for this deep pain for your family and friends.

  45. Michelle says:

    I only had one real heart to heart with Dave over the four years I was lucky enough to know him. The crew was gathered at the Harp to see Kori and watch the Celtics. We were outside admiring Frankie and Dave’s bikes. They was going on and on about how much he loved riding, different highways and places to ride, and of course my need to get one. When the topic of my relationship with Steve came up I hesitated and tried to change the subject. Dave looked and me and said “Don’t worry, Steve likes to take his time with things.” This is true about Steve on many levels! At the time it didn’t seem that significant, but it was so kind of him to be reassuring. That comment stuck with me as Steve and I have grown closer. Dave genuinely cared for all his friends. I will always be thankful to have known him and offer my love and support to all who mourn his loss.

  46. Joanna says:

    I do not know Dave but I saw his story on the news. I just wanted to express my sincerest condolences to his family, friends and fiancee. I am so very sorry for all of you and I hope that, as the pain eases, you find comfort and happiness in your memories.
    God Bless Dave.

  47. TONY says:

    God Bless to all who knew and love this man.
    You will be together again in Heaven.

  48. Marissa says:

    I have been trying to think of one significant memory of Dave but there are just so many. He was always smiling and had such a love for life. He was definitely one of those special individuals that live for the moment and not for the day. One could never be in a bad mood or sad if Dave was around. I was blessed to be able to know him.

    I was packing today and came across the article from the Govern’s ball in Boston. It reminded me of how happy Dave was when Big Bad Voodoo Daddy preformed…He looked like a kid on Christmas. He started pulling out swing dancing moves that you only see professionals use on tv 🙂 Dave you were an amazing individual and will truly be missed by all who had the honor of knowing you. Thank you for touching my life.

  49. Dave says:

    I also seen the story on fox25. I am so sorry for you loss, with all these comments Dave was truly loved. I recently stopped drinking and I think how stupid I was getting behind the wheel of a car. I could of been the guy who could destroyed someones life and hurt all the people that loved that person, like you all loved Dave. I don’t know Dave or anyone else that loved him, but I am glad I woke up to how stupid I was, I wish more people would wake up to drunk driving. God bless all of you that love Dave

  50. Tracy says:

    I didn’t know Dave but I heard about him on the news. I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. God bless.

  51. sandy ivette cervera says:

    My condolences to go out to Dave’s family,friends and family but most of all to his fiancée am so sorry for your loss and may the lord guide you trough this painful time i did not have the pleasure of knowing Dave but from all these wonderful memories from his family & friends god bless and you’re all in my prayers.

    Sandy From Methuen

  52. Mike says:

    my heart and prayers go out to his family i dont know either one of you saw it on the news and felt really sad i hope it will warm your heart that some of Dave lives on in the organ donations he donated and i deeply hope that the heartless stupid man who drove drunk that took this man away from his family pays the price of his life behind bars

  53. Christine Anthony says:

    The earliest memories I have of Dave go all the way back to the summer of 2008, when I met him as Eleanor’s “new boyfriend”. Right off the bat I could tell that Dave was a guy who was so enthusiastic about life and always had a great big smile on his face!!! Every chance I got to hang out with him after that day, smiling and laughing seemed to be contagious to everyone that was around him.
    Over the last few months we have chatted a lot through email about work (and life). He always talked so much about Mechanical Engineering and loved his profession. I tried for the longest time on getting him a job as a M.E. at my work, while a friend of his from Northeastern had just got a job there… more than anything we both wanted him working with us, more so just to be able to do lunch together! Through emails though, he talked more about his favorite girl than anything else, which always seemed to be his favorite topic:
    “Our first date, we went to an art opening, for a really cool artist. Elle ended up having a studio in the same building. I bought her some original work by the guy, then had it framed.” (Asking him what he got Eleanor for Christmas).
    “Love the Kona and breakfast blends. I don’t like she-she flavors like mocha nut fudge, berry or whatever. Elle brand coffee is any coffee Eleanor makes me in the morning!”- (on his favorite kind of coffee)
    “Hey there Sunshine! Sorry it took me a moment to get back to you. Life has been very good, and very hectic! Eleanor and I have been super busy. We have been looking for a house for the past few months. No luck yet! What’s been going on in the world of TT?” –(just a general hello)
    I feel honored to have known Dave and to have considered him to be a great friend in just the 3 short years that I have known him! Though it may not be long, great memories were made and he will never be forgotten. Remember he is an angel among all of us, even to the 2 young boy’s lives he saved from being an organ donor, he is a hero.
    Christine (or as Dave called me “T.T.”)

  54. Tracy Thigpen says:

    I’ve been friends with Dave since we met in college, and he was one of the most kind, upbeat and amazing people I have ever known. Whether it was at a bunny party at 487, one of our many ski trips or graduation night in a limo, Dave was always the life of the party. He looked at life with a big smile on his face, and the world will be a sadder place without him. I know how happy he was with Eleanor, and my heart goes out to everyone who has lost a friend with his death. I wish I had the chance to see him one last time, but I know his ever-present smile will stay with all of us forever.
    We will never forget you Dave.

  55. Anon. says:

    I did not know David but I would like to send my thoughts and prayers to his family & fiance. I have looked through these beautiful pictures. You get a sense of what he was like so quickly. Always smiling, always being silly, and it seemed to rub off on everyone around him because they were smiling too. He looks like an amazingly fun person to be around. You are all blessed with so many wonderful memories and it seems to me that David was equally as lucky to have a loving family, beautiful fiance and an fantastic group of friends. Why else would a man smile so much? I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss and wish you all some peace during this very difficult time.

  56. Ed Apostle says:

    Ive been struggling with the words and what to say as I feel nothing I type out can ever convey the feelings I have or the memories weve made.

    Ive known Dave since we were 3 feet tall running around playing park & rec soccer….. he was always better than me! I was always busy picking at the grass or watching the birds and my dad would say “why cant you run around like that Laduzenski kid!” … makes me smile to this day thinking about it….

    There are so many memories I dont even know where to begin. Not only was Dave a best friend but I consider his parents good family friends. Countless memories, unmeasurable generosity, beautiful parents… (that I know tought him how to be such a great person, friend and man.)

    One memory I will share is from a dark time in my life. I had suddenly lost my father. After the dust had setteled I began making the necessary phone calls and one of thoes phone calls was to my good friend Dave. My father loved Dave as a son, and Dave always loved visiting “Mr. Apostle” (as he always called him) no matter how old we were. Dave loved to swing in and check on my dads 1977 Mercury Cougar which he loooved and was always asking when he could buy it off of him. As I broke the news to Dave he immediatly began to cry as hard as I was, in complete disbelief. That very second our bond grew as strong as true borthers when I realized he shared a smiliar love for my father as I. He offered his kind words and assistance in anything and I knew he meant it. At the funeral I was obviously a complete trainwreck but I had my best friends Dave and Ryan standing right behind me. When it was time to place a flower on the casket and leave I was clearly having a hard time. On my shoulder I felt a familiar hand that I knew was Dave, letting me know they were there and I was not alone. I then picked up a rose, placed it on the casket, and walked away. Dave picked up a rose, and kept it.

    One year later Dave was in town and we got a chance to see each other. Dave told me he had something for me and he pulled out a dried yellow rose. He explained to me that it was from my fathers casket and he knew that I was too upset to think about it at the time but thought I might want it in the future.

    Since that day this single dried flower has ment more to me than every gift or present combined in my 29 years on this earth. Whenever I look at this flower I feel such strong emotions knowing that not only was it from my fathers casket but Dave had the kindness, consideration, forethought to keep that rose knowing I would want it in the future and that it would mean something to me.

    To this day Im still not sure if I cherish that rose more becasue of my father or more because of everything it represents as such a tremendously thoughtful gesture from a tremendously beautiful person….

    You were such a class act Dave, one of the remaining true gentelman. One of a kind.

    I miss you dearly and shed tears as I write this. Be well, rest easy, we will all be together again someday. You are and were my only friend to ever call me “Eddie”, I dream of the day I can hear your voice call me Eddie again.

    Buddies forever

    • Liz says:

      That is so sweet, Ed. It brought tears to my eyes again. Thank you for sharing this story….it really shows how true and loyal of a friend he was. See you this weekend…
      Love, Liz

    • colleen white says:

      I cried like a baby after reading this. That is the sweetest thing I have ever heard someone do for their friend. I wish I was closer to him maybe my life would have been more enjoyable because there aren’t to many. People you can call true friends ed. But he was a true friend to you n I’m so sorry you lost him. I hope someday when your old n grey very old ull one day connect with him again cause there is a reason he was meant to be in your life. I’m also sorry u lost ur dad I lost mine in high school I know its hard. Colleen white

  57. Michael Pollack says:

    Many times have I thought Dave is someone I should get to know better. It is truly saddening that will never be possible. I have lived upstairs from Dave for over four years now and never saw him without a smile on his face. Watching the joy he took in tending to his yard or tinkering with his motorcycle was contagious. I loved talking with him about our mutual love of camping and the outdoors or listening to him and his love of riding. He was an integral part of our condo association as a trustee and performed far above and beyond what could ever be expected of anyone. My heart truly goes out to his family and especially to Eleanor. I also recently became engaged and can only begin to imagine what she is experiencing. In fact, Dave and Eleanor were among the first to learn of my engagement, as my fiancee and I ran into them the morning after I proposed. I remember distinctly his heartfelt excitement for us. The many communities of which Dave was a part are all diminished with his passing. Rest in peace, Dave. You will be missed.

  58. Kristi Delkescamp says:

    Though I was never lucky enough to meet Dave in person, I remember the day Elle met Dave back three years ago. At the time, she and I worked together and she called me over to her desk early one morning to show me pictures of Dave, the whole time smiling and giggling away. You could tell instantly what she felt for him was that forever kind of love.

    I wished I could have met Dave and been able to chime in on what an amazing person he was, because across the board everyone seems to agree that was the case.

    Dave will live on, in the memories of his loved ones, and more literally in the two children he saved after his passing. God bless…

  59. Ryan E. says:

    I knew Dave for a short time in college and he was a fun, bright guy and it’s a shame that he’s gone in such a way. I don’t know anyone who could say anything bad about him. He was a great person to everyone, even those he hardly knew. My heart goes out to his family and friends as he will be missed.

  60. rita vaudo says:

    i met him when he moved in across the street always in a good mood just met his girlfriend recently and they seemed so happy , sorry to hear this tragic story our thoughts and prayers are with his family.

  61. South Boston, Mass. says:

    I did not know this young man…I pray for peace and comfort for his family.

    I hope that all their memories will give them some joy and comfort.

    I hope that he is now resting easy in the loving hands of God.

    God Bless You ALL

  62. Jimm Hewitt says:

    Dave will be missed. I met Dave in 2004 when he was a co-op at USG, and we quickly found that we had a lot in common. We both grew up in Western Mass, so we would spend time talking about, White Hut, Riverside, Millies Perogie’s, and The Big E, etc. When Dave graduated, I pushed to bring Dave on full time. Even though he had already accepted a job elsewhere he loved the excitement and adventure of the city, so he quickly he came back to Boston. Over our friendship, I taught Dave about baseball and the Red Sox, and he taught me about being more social. I would bring him to games and he would bring me out to dinners and events with his friends. As time passed and Dave changed jobs, we would see each other less. But I always knew that Dave was a phone call away and we could always talk for hours about the good times we had, what we were designing at work, gardening, our future plans of becoming financially independent through real estate or all the crazy things that Bao said at USG.
    Last time I saw Dave, we met at the Big Yellow Slide. Dave was early, and could not wait, so he bought 4 tickets so he and Eleanor could go really quick while they waited for us and again with us. We had a line of 8-10 people going all at once.
    I know Dave lived more in his 29 years than most do in 100.
    DL you will be missed!

  63. Anonymous says:

    I never met Dave but look at all of his pictures. What an angel he is. I have never seen someone with so many fun-filled times in their life. This page is a place for happiness. Not slander of any kind.

    This person Dave appears to have been a one of a kind guy. What wonderful parents he must have had. I don’t think they ever need to read terrible comments here. Save it! Or his sister or his beloved girlfriend.

    Rest in peace David Laduzenski. What a handsome, joyous, charismatic wonderful human being/spirit. God must need you in Heaven, you angel.

  64. Someone who never met him, but has been touched says:

    I never met Dave but look at all of his pictures. What an angel he is. I have never seen someone with so many fun-filled times in their life. What a beautiful page full of happiness.

    This person Dave appears to have been a one of a kind guy. What wonderful parents he must have had. And sister, and beloved girlfriend.

    Rest in peace David Laduzenski. What a handsome, joyous, charismatic wonderful human being/spirit. God must need you in Heaven, you angel.

  65. Leslie Shenson says:

    Your zest for life was an inspiration. The way you craved the most out of every occasion was infectious. Some of the best moments of my lifetime are because of you.

    I will always laugh when I think of the good times we shared – trying to speak Spanish to American waiters in Tex-Mex restaurants, double dares in Kenmore Square after the Sox game, the BFD busting down John’s door after baking cookies on a perforated roasting tray at 4am…Drinking your dad’s homemade wine in our sweats, just talking about whatever came to mind. The world was your playground.

    I hope you know how much these hilarious and sentimental adventures with you mean to me – mean to all of us during this painful and unexplainable time. I am happy to have shared these moments with you Crazy Dave, and will always keep them close.

    You have transformed from friend to angel within a blink of the eye. Spread your wings Dave, and don’t forget that “I’ll just call to say I love you”.

    All my heart,

  66. Nicole Cardinale (Rocke) says:

    I met Dave in High School, he was a year ahead of me. I remember his smile, and how CRAZY he was! I remember one year for a play or something he had a big green dinosaur costume on with a BIG SMILE! He didn’t care what others thought..and if he did he never showed it! He had a lot of love for people. His personality was infectious. I am blessed to have met such a great person. You will be missed by many but never forgotten.
    My thoughts and prayers are with your family and friends
    God Bless Dave!

    People do not die for us immediately, but remain bathed in a sort of aura of life which bears no relation to true immortality but through which they continue to occupy our thoughts in the same way as when they were alive. It is as though they were traveling abroad. ~Marcel Proust

  67. "Stupid" Dave says:

    I met Dave freshman year of college when our dorm had so many Daves that we each got stuck with a nickname we would never self apply. Hearing of Dave’s passing got me thinking of these nicknames left me thinking about how Dave ended up as “Crazy Dave”. I’m certain it came from the fact that unlike the other 18 and 19 years olds Dave lived with, he was perfectly comfortable to wear his heart on his sleeve, easily laughing or crying in front of others. I was lucky enough to run into Dave around Somerville a few times in recent years and was pleased to learn this was still the case, as I could instantly see how in love Eleanor he was. I cried a little bit reading Dave’s thoughtful obit this morning. He certainly appears to have touched a lot of people, even the total strangers who have posted on here. My best wishes go out to his family and loved ones.

    -“Stupid” Dave.

  68. Saima Siddiqi says:

    When I first heard the news, I was paralyzed and shock. I could not believe that someone I knew in high school had passed away. Especially, a person who I knew only for a moment and never had an opportunity to get to know better.

    I have had brief encounters with Dave in high school. He was one of first person I met when I was included in the percussion section and asked to play cymbals. I remember standing in the parking lot and band room and watching David in awe when he performed. I had wanted to play drums so badly because he made it look so easy and awesome. He was extremely friendly and sweet, and always reminded me to watch him and take the lead. In the short time that I was in band, Dave made me feel welcomed and like a part of something fun and wonderful. My other experience was working on a school project with him. We stayed up really late to finish an assignment on solar panels. We were stressed out and somehow we managed to get our acts together and finished the assignment by midnight. Honestly, I can not recall ever having a terrible time with Dave. It was impossible!! Dave had personal charisma and was SO SPECIAL in how he treated people and his kindness was contagious. It saddens me to think that we have lost such a wonderful person, who would have given anything for his family and friends. He was the best person he could possibly be and knew how to turn negative situations in a positive. Even after his death, he is still giving and helping two kids to live a long and prosperous life.

    Dave, you are truly inspirational to all of us!! You will be missed.

  69. Colleen says:

    To David’s Fiancee and family,
    I saw this story on the news and wanted to send my deepest sympathy to you for the loss of David. All of the wonderful memories posted here show what a great person he was and what a positive effect he had on so many people. I know first hand what you are going through (it will be 5 years in June) and I pray that the good Lord will watch over you and give you the strength to move forward remembering all the good times and the love he had for you. “God will not bring you to it, without seeing you through it”

  70. Someone who never met him, but has been touched says:

    I wish I could have met this beautiful soul. Maybe one day I will. I have learned a little something from him already without even meeting him. To be truly happy, for you just never know…….

  71. Sheila Mathis says:

    I remember David in school he always had a smile and made me laugh. I’m sorry this happened to you. I’m glad I got to know you all through high school. Love you dave and my condolensces go out to your family

  72. Rebecca says:

    Wow – I don’t normally comment on news stories or on stories about people I don’t know…but I read this article on Fox News and couldn’t help but visit the website and browse through the pictures of who has proven to be such a special man! I am so, so, sorry for your loss. It’s clear he has made an impact on everyone who he has been in contact with – and even some he hasn’t! Like me.

    It’s so hard to explain why these things happen…I hope you find comfort in knowing his smile and kindness has continued on.


  73. Laura says:

    Blessings to family, his fiance and all his friends both old and new to get thru this horrible time.

    I did not know Dave, but reading your stories about how he touched all your lives is amazing. When I first started to read them I could barely see I was crying so hard, but the more I read I started to smile and think how lucky you all were for knowing him.

    Take care and god bless you Dave.

  74. Mary Ann says:

    I will never forget the huge smile that Dave always had on his face. He was one of a kind and always was so full of life and had so much energy. I’ll never forget how he use to tease me in High School and pull my hair and say it was 14 carrot gold with a huge smile on his face cause I had red hair. I always enjoyed his company and going to ska shows with him. He was such a caring person, and would always reach out to you to see how life was treating you and how you were doing. My heart and prayers go out to David’s family, loved ones and close friends and especially to Eleanor. I have lost two of my best friends that meant the world to me so I know how hard it can me to lose someone at such a young age that you cherished so much.

  75. Amanda Mercier says:

    I met you both only a few times, but from the 1st meeting I could tell these are people you want in your life, if not for the laughs that were bound to happen, then for the genuine, real person inside both of you. The love that was shared and the friendship that was right behind it was very obvious in a subtle way. I told Amber the last time I saw the two of you (Haloween 2011 I was Sarah Palin you two dressed as old couple which was hilarious by the way) “that is what I want someday” everybody does really, but its not always you are lucky enough to actually have it. Even if you feel it was not long enough you both lived, loved, laughed.

    God Speed,
    Amanda Mercier

  76. Abby Dejnak (Gregitis) says:

    I didn’t know Dave well, but can clearly remember him smiling and laughing. He had an amazing spirit and lived life to the fullest. I am glad I had the chance to know Dave at all. Dave, you were an amazing person and will truly be missed.

  77. Meredeth Aponte says:

    I met Dave in preschool/kindergarten, and our paths intertwined from there. West Side is not a huge place 🙂 I don’t remember too much from those early days, but my mom has always told a story with any mention of Dave about one day he came to class with a cast on his finger. He told everyone that he’d hurt it and couldn’t write. He went through the whole day with this story, only for everyone to find out later that he’d made the cast in a Cub Scouts activity, and his finger was totally fine – HA! I think my mom always related to and appreciated the goofy side of Dave that loved a good laugh.

    Throughout junior high and high school, Dave was a friend who I’d run into at my locker, the band or chorus room during jazz band rehearsals, or at the Crum’s house. The best thing about having Dave as a friend, for me, was how special he could make me feel about myself. High school can be a tough time, but Dave was someone who made me feel special, beautiful, talented, and appreciated, no matter how ugly, awkward, or ordinary I was feeling. What a gift of a friend!!

    There’s a song that’s been running through my head these last few days – it reminds me of Dave and maybe a bit of what he’d say to us all. Maybe it will help comfort someone else as well.

    May God bless and keep you always,
    May your wishes all come true,
    May you always do for others
    And let others do for you.
    May you build a ladder to the stars
    And climb on every rung,
    May you stay forever young,
    Forever young, forever young,
    May you stay forever young.

    May you grow up to be righteous,
    May you grow up to be true,
    May you always know the truth
    And see the lights surrounding you.
    May you always be courageous,
    Stand upright and be strong,
    May you stay forever young,
    Forever young, forever young,
    May you stay forever young.

    May your hands always be busy,
    May your feet always be swift,
    May you have a strong foundation
    When the winds of changes shift.
    May your heart always be joyful,
    May your song always be sung,
    May you stay forever young,
    Forever young, forever young,
    May you stay forever young.

  78. Sandra Davis says:

    I never met “Dave L” but heard so much about him from my husband and brother-in-law who worked with him on weekends and weeknights at NK Labs… Just last Thursday my husband worked with him and came home telling me about the conversations they had over “Ma Magoos” take out and how he brought his fiancee with him to work that night…. I am sorry that I never got to know more of him than “Dave L”… Thoughts for his family and friends… 🙁

  79. Timma says:

    The following story may not involve a memory I have spent with Dave in person but it seems somewhat as though it was with Dave in spirit.

    I was in Florida when I received the message about Dave having been in a bad accident and walked out onto the porch to share the news with my other friends who were with me on the trip. A short while later, one friend pointed up and said “look at that.” As I turned and looked, I noticed a large iguana perched above the doorway, directly over my right shoulder. Those who have known Dave for as long as I have would recognize this animal and possibly even mistake it for Ziggy, a pet that Dave once owned years ago.

    I wouldn’t consider myself to be an especially religious person and although iguanas are somewhat prevalent in Florida, I can imagine that this would make anyone stop and think spiritually for a moment. Whether or not it had anything directly to do with Dave, it brought back memories I had of him and thats good enough for me.

    Goodbye Dave, we’ll miss you.

  80. Savina says:

    I knew David through my brother from when they were in the high school band together at the West Springfield High school. You could always count on him putting a smile on your face no matter what he was also always a fun person and made people laugh. He has touched the lives of so many people and it’s sad that it was cut so very short. My sympathies to his family and is fiancee to be. I’m sorry for your loss.

  81. Max Giang says:

    I recently heard about Dave passing and can’t really believe it. Ever since I heard the news, I kept feeling a compulsion to say something – to offer my condolences…but I refrained because I only knew Dave in high school. I thought maybe it would not be my place to speak, but since I’ve seen these posts, I don’t want to keep quiet any more.

    Dave was a really great guy. We played volleyball together in high school. Looking back, I always remembered him smiling. He was so happy go lucky all the time, despite anything that was going on. He always had such a great attitude and energy. He was kind. We were just kids then, and while I was struggling to figure things out, I always felt like he knew who he was. I admired that about him.

    Dave was one of those good guys with good friends that came from good family in a small town. Sounds like the good life to me. Things and people change, but I’d bet anything he’s still that sweet kid I knew in high school. I wish things could have been different and that I could have known him more.

    Thanks Dave…for everything.

  82. Chris Bertolino says:

    Dave; Family and Friends,

    Although I did not know you, Dave, extremely well, he was a great friend of my brother’s and so I was given the pleasure of meeting him and Eleanor. The times that I was surrounded by him there was a noticeable glow of life being shown through his charismatic and jubilant personality that was hard to ignore. There wasn’t a time I can remember that he didn’t have an ear to ear smile or have something kind or positive to say about a friend or especially Eleanor. He was the type of person I could tell my brother felt lucky to have as a friend and I am lucky to have such fond memories of a man who was adored by so many.

    RIP Dave, you can be proud of the life you lived and the friends and family you will always have.

    – Chris

  83. Marguerite R. Corcoran says:

    Thinking back over these past years, I can’t seem to sift down to just one special memory or even one season for that matter, so, instead, I’ll share my own transition regarding Dave – from being Eleanor’s boyfriend – to becoming my friend Dave.
    I’m the first to admit that I’m very tough when it comes to accepting a friend’s significant other (I only expect the very best). Dave, however, proved himself over and over and over how much he genuinely loved his dear Nor and how tremendously well suited he was for her.
    His adoration, I learned, was just one of his wonderful traits of such a truly unique individual. The “enginerd” (only meant endearingly) in Dave was always thinking, planning and/or solving and combined with his incredible optimism always yielded such amazing responses and advice.
    Captain Norman Borge had the belief that when a fisherman passed away, his spirit would live on in a seagull and the gull would watch over his family and friends…Dave’s memory will forever live on in our hearts and we will never feel alone if we can look up and see one lone gull.
    Until we meet again, I will take care of your beloved; the honor is mine, my dear friend Dave.

    • midge says:

      I am Beam’s aunt and have met you. Just want to sat I loved what you wrote AND I know you will take care of our beautiful girl. Thank you!

  84. Bob & Debbi Kelly says:

    Taken from us too soon, your light in this world will be missed and cherished always by those who knew you. Our prayers are with your family and loved ones.

  85. dale says:

    Fare well to your family this is such a tragic story to your family i did not know you either but it seems that you were a great guy the good die young!!! your family has my greatest condolances!!!! R.I.P

  86. Meg says:

    My favorite memory of Dave and one I will never forget is how we were brought together. I met dave serving Jury Duty 6 years ago, I remember walking into the room with a handful of other people, but I remember immediately seeing Dave, the first thing I noticed was how happy he looked and his glowing smile, talking to everyone else in the room. I thought to myself, “How does this person already know everyone?” Turns out he didn’t he was just that friendly because when i sat down he immediately started talking to me. From that day on Dave was in my life. This is just one example of how he made friends where ever he went. I am so grateful to have known such a genuinely kind and happy person. His smile will be something that will remain in my heart forever.

  87. erin preiato says:

    wow… freshman year at northeastern. i had a great time with dave, aka “d-spot” and i was “e-spot.” very sad and unexpected… i’m just glad that i can look back and appreciate meeting such a kind and heartfelt individual.
    i once gave him a t-shirt that i had gotten at a thrift store bc it said “david” on the back. however, after lending it out i realized i couldn’t live without it bc this was one of those worn in almost see-through yummy cotton situations.. i still have the t-shirt.
    it’s brown with an image of superman on the front. i imagine some kid, with as much spirt and spunk as dave, saving up all of his cereal barcodes to send in for this t-shirt. i will never for get you d-spot


  88. Erez says:

    I am still in a state of disbelief about this; it just looks and sounds like a horrible movie. 487 Mass Ave was a prime representation of my college years (which have been some of my best), and I was fortunate to have lived with Dave during our senior year. I will never forget the beautiful day that I shared with him and his father on their annual deap sea fishing trip. We brought a decent catch home and met some friends in Newport, RI, grilled the fish outside and shared good times. This was basically our lives for a bit, with an occasional “bunny” party.
    To read the outpouring of stories and thoughts here has been incredibly emotional, it was hard not to choke up and shed some tears. There is a clear representation here of Dave’s impact on us, even those he had not even met! He surrounded himself with people alike himself. This is a heavy loss for us, but especially for the ones he was closest: his family, and Eleanor. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
    Dave, you did well my friend. I will find many ways to celebrate your life and carry on your memory with those that we knew and those that we didnt.



  89. Kori says:

    As so many others, I cant pick one specific memory of Dave, there seem to be so many from the past 3 years of knowing him. I met Dave through my boyfriend Ron and good friend Leslie, both of whom referred to him as “Crazy Dave”. It did not take long for him to switch from “Ron’s friend Dave” to “my friend Dave”. Every memory I have of him is with his contagious, awesome smile. From nights out dancing with friends, poker games where he and I pretended we didn’t know what beat what just to mess with Ron, playing with our dog even when he didn’t want to, showing up to ride motorcycles with Ron and giving me crap for being too scared to get on the bike, recalling our favorite LOST moments, to 3 weeks ago riding back from skiing with him and the love of his life El just talking about random things.

    Dave, you were truly an amazing soul. I always knew I could count on your honest opinion and humor to offset any awkward moment. I really feel blessed being able to call you my friend. You will always hold a special place in my heart (and Mona’s too), and you will be missed more than words can say.

    With all my heart,

  90. Lisa Wandeloski says:

    I swam with Dave for many years on the YMCA in Westfield. How can you forget about Alf? 🙂 Although I lost contact with Dave after high school, I bumped into him at the Big E this past fall. How could you ever forget that smile of his. He was always there to make you laugh if you were down or if something was wrong. Would never hurt anyone….always looking out for everyone. We will never know why this happened and why David was taken from us all too soon but God is watching over him and now he is watching over us. My thoughts and prayers are with the Laduzenski family.

  91. Lauren Smith says:

    I knew Dave in high school. More specifically from band. I was a year behind Dave and when I went to my first band rehearsal as a freshman, there was Dave greeting everyone and asking what they played. While I wasn’t good friends with Dave, reading the memories of others made me remember that infectious smile of Dave’s. His constant smiling was something I thought had to be faked, how could someone smile all the time. By sophmore year, I learned it was Dave. He always smiled and always made others smile.

    Keep smiling Dave. Play Big Bad Voodoo Daddies all day long. Rock out on the drums. Rest in Peace.

  92. Jennifer Frisbie says:

    Dave, I can’t recall a memory of you when you weren’t smiling! You always made me feel special and beautiful. Thank you so much.

  93. Alison Ulmer says:

    David-you were magical…you shimmered and I feel really lucky to have met you at Sarah & Krey’s engagement party in Florida. You meant the world to your family, friends and loved ones. You will always be close at heart.

  94. colleen white says:

    My fondest memories of you were in the high school band. You made all our trips together as a band fun and exciting. You have an infectious smile that would brighten everyones day. You will truely be missed. You made a wonderful impact on mine and everyones life who knew you. I’m truely sorry ur life was rudely ended and may you rest in peace david. I feel for all your family and friends. I’m so sorry for your loss. You will always be remembered……

  95. georganne myers says:

    Wow! What a wonderful man. I accidently found this site and was moved to tears by the love shown for David. Thank you for allowing strangers to know him. I wish I could have known him. My heart aches for all; family, friends and Elanore. My gratitude to David for his organ donations. I lost my husband of 32 years recently due to complications from his transplant but am eternally grateful for the donor’s gift that tried to save his life. May David rest in eternal peace.

  96. Jennifer (Reome) Pragle says:

    My memories were from Dave in High School. Who wasn’t lit up inside when they saw Dave Laduzenski walk into the room? He brought warmth and happiness into people’s lives with his charismatic smile and his love for friendship. He made people feel like they should live each day to it’s fullest- with laughter, fun, and love. I think the best group trip I’ve been on to this day, was to Florida in 1999 with the band, and I know that is because Dave was a huge part of that trip. I remember waiting patiently to sign up for which one of the two buses we would ride on; and the crowded hallway as people pushed to write their name on the list for the bus that Dave was on! We had a wonderful time in Florida from when it came time to perform, to Dave and Ethan’s infamous striptease by the pool. I think one of the best memories I had was riding thunder mountain over and over, thus not noticing we were late to report back to the buses. A good 16 people or so, including Dave, ran frantically through magic kingdom holding hands, trying to get back to the buses. Well we were very late, and Doc was mad- we had to clean the buses as punishment. My best friend, Jolene, was the only one who was on the other bus and I remember Dave sticking up for her, saying it wasn’t her fault and that she shouldn’t be punished.
    He was such a considerate and loving person. That is how I best remember him. Kind, Loving and infectious with happiness. Such a zest for life. Anyone who has met him can say that he has touched their life in some way. I know he holds a special place in my heart. I pray for peace for his family, friends and Eleanor in this time of grieving. May his memory keep you smiling, as he would want everyone to keep smiling.
    Abraham Lincoln once said, “And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count.
    It’s the life in your years”. If anyone lived up to this quote it was Dave. I know I will live up to it. Thank you Dave. Rest in peace
    Love Jenn

  97. Jeff Bourque says:

    I swam with Dave when we were young and in high school. My pervasive memories of him are his constant positive attitude, his inability to allow people around him to have a bad mood, and getting yelled at for goofing around. He was a supportive teammate and a tenacious competitor. He hated the nickname “Alf”, but nicknames are only given to people when they are cared for and he was and deservedly so.
    “One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon-instead of enjoying the roses blooming outside our windows today.” – Dale Carnegie

  98. Mike D says:

    I always looked forward to the nights you would be at NK Labs. The way you would always dash to the radio to turn the station when the Kars for Kids commercial would come on, the cool music you always brought over to get us jazzed up. Heck, you even got Mamma Goos to make “no tails” the default option when we order shrimp dishes 🙂 I know I didn’t know you as well as some, but you made a wonderful and permanent impression. Judging from all of the comments here, I wasn’t the only one. You are and will continue to be missed.

  99. Sarah W. says:

    I wasn’t as close to Dave as so many others were but I always thought of him as a very genuine friend. I was lucky enough to meet Dave through a fateful circumstance- my college roommate, Meg F. was selected to be on a jury with him- and I consider myself incredibly fortunate to have known him. I have been to many social gatherings with Dave and his many, many friends and even though I didn’t know most of the people there, I always felt comforted knowing that Dave was there as a friend. His smile and enthusiastic attitude were always unbelievably warm and infectious. Even though I saw him on rare occasions, I will definitely miss him.

    My thoughts are with his family, Eleanor and his amazing friends. He was blessed to have so many people in his life love him so deeply. He touched every person who knew him with his genuineness, his smile and his love for life. I will be eternally grateful that our paths crossed in life and I will never forget him.

  100. Adam Rosszay says:

    I loved Dave so much. He was an emotional being who touched me dearly. I immediately connected with him. It was only natural from all that vitality that shined through his spirit. I see my time spent at Northeastern University as a roller-coaster ride through personal growth and awareness. Dave was very much a part of this roller-coaster ride. Our relationship developed over time from chatting about our interests and enjoying our friend’s company to asking ourselves who we were and why we were here on this Earth.

    One of my favorite memories was when Dave, Emmett and I would take long walks around Boston (maybe stop by the Fens to throw the frisbee around) and enjoy sharing and expressing our thoughts about life, society and ourselves. It was a time of confusion and the unknown could be felt just over the horizon.

    At first, we were all basically in the same place. We were young guns taking risks and playing the cards life dealt us the best we could. There are so many things that we did together in those early days that it’s hard to separate my life from his when I think about them. Music? Together. Moving apartments? Together. Magic? Together. Going to the pet store? Together. Clubbing? Together. Buying a new shirt? Together. Snowboarding, even though he didn’t know how to at first? Together. School Work? Together. Dancing? Together. Joking? Together. Poker? Together. Cooking? Together. Singing? Well, I was never good at that, but Dave loved to even though he probably wasn’t that good either.

    We would often consult each other about challenges we faced and experienced. There was a phase in my life where I spoke to Dave about the books I was reading about self awareness. We found a particular interest and perhaps a kind of comfort in the phrase “I am you, you are me.”

    Before I realized what had happened, it occurred to me that the unknown could not be felt just over the horizon any longer. The unknown for Dave that is. Dave got me a job working with him at the gym while in school and he also got me my first job out of school working with him at U.S. Genomics. Dave maintained a firm commitment to his family and worked hard to make them proud. This is stating the obvious. Anyone that knew him, knew this fact about him. He loved his family.

    When many of us were separating ourselves from our family, staying less in touch, making ourselves busy to avoid them, Dave was an example of a young man embracing his adulthood. He taught us and showed us the kind of responsibility that defines what it means to be an adult. He taught us about the pride and respect that manifests out of the commitments made to make Mom and Dad happy. He taught us how to stay in touch with Sis. He was the first one to make a serious financial move and purchase an apartment. He would show us how easy it was to sacrifice some of the little things in order to gain other, bigger things. He would carry two jobs in order to gain those bigger things. Always thinking, always dreaming. Dave lived in the ideal moment in hopes to gain his ideal future. And then he met the girl of his dreams.

    With Eleanor by his side, Dave’s confidence skyrocketed and he was unstoppable. This didn’t happen instantly of course, he was just like anyone else. He knew he loved her and would often turn to one of us to seek advice even for the littlest of things. He wanted to make his relationship with El be genuine and long lasting. He did not want to lose her. His ideal future always was a picture of him living his life with the love of his life. This is also stating the obvious for anyone that knew him. The days all of a sudden came when Dave didn’t have to ask us for advice on what to do in his relationship any longer. He knew what to do on his own. He was comfortable in his own skin and he knew what to do, what the right thing to do was. He was unstoppable.

    Life became slightly less confusing and unknown. He reached some kind of ‘happy place’ where he understood who he was, where he was, what to do, how to do it, and where he was going. He took life by the reigns and made his directions clear. It makes me happy to think back on his life and know that he truly lived fully in the time he had and cherished every moment he had. I will always remember Dave for the amazing achievements he made in his personal life.

    His companionship, his responsibility, his self-determination, his love, his commitments, his pride, his sacrifices, his own words of wisdom and advice and comfort. These are the reasons I saw Dave as a role model and will continue to see him as such throughout my life. I’m extremely fortunate to have been given these treasures Dave shared with me. He was much more than a friend. He was a dear, dear friend of mine and I will miss him more than I can comprehend right now. I’m glad I was able to share some time on this Earth with him. May God bless him and may he rest in peace. Remember Dave – I am you, you are me.

    . Adam .

  101. Amy and Julie Kukahiko says:

    We can remember so many wonderful memories as kids growing up with David. We live next door to his grandmother, whom we also call “Grandma Jane.” Whenever we saw the Laduzenski’s drive down the street we got so excited because we knew all the fun we would have with David. He would always come over and swim in our pool wearing his little goggles and nose plug. As children do we would tease him about his nose plug and so he would take it off. David would then jump into the pool and swim underwater pinching his nose closed ever so tight. Little did we know that one day David would grow up to be an all western mass swimmer. We remember playing all day and into the night whether it be swimming, jumping on the trampoline, or playing endless games of hide and go seek, we always had the best time with David.

    As time passed and we all grew up our play dates became less frequent until one evening David showed up new license in hand and asked if we wanted to go for a ride. What was supposed to be a little drive around the neighborhood turned into an adventure filled with laughs that lasted over an hour.

    David brought so much happiness to everyone he met. We are truly grateful that we have these fond memories that we can look back and smile about. To Donald and Ann Marie, you raised an amazing little boy who turned out to be an equally amazing man! We both feel incredibly blessed to have had David in our lives and he will be greatly missed. We learned so much from David and because of his positive attitude and loving spirit he will live on through us forever. We love you David!

    Love Always,
    The Kukahiko Sisters

  102. Tiana Pastore says:


    Let me start off by saying there is no one else in this world like Dave Lad. I remember the night before Bill and I left for our engagement trip you were so adamant to see us and I couldn’t understand why. The next day when I told you that he proposed you said “why do you think I wanted to see you so badly, because I was so excited for you.” Your excitement for absolutely anything was through the roof and it was extremely catchy. Last year, you really wanted us to come to John’s Halloween party so you texted Bill and I everyday for 40 days to make sure he was deejaying and I was on the list. I have so many great memories of you. I also have so many great memories with you and Eleanor together – watching Lost, Sunday morning video chat when you finally gave in and got the iphone 4 (well El had a huge part in that), random pop-ins at each others condos, you and Bill taking turns deejaying for us, drinking your dad’s wine, spontaneous weekend plans, boat parties, watching the video of your cali adventure (which we never came close to finishing because you had to pause and stare at every single picture of Eleanor, you just “couldn’t get over how beautiful she is”), and many more. I’m so happy to become as close of friends as we did over the past couple years. You are one of the best and I will never forget you! P.S. Don’t worry, we promise to take great care of your Nor.


  103. Judson Abts says:

    Writing a memory of Dave has proven to be one of the most difficult things I’ve ever had to do. In an effort to console one of my dearest friends, Eleanor, I have been able to suppress my own devastation at losing such a great friend. Stepping out of shock and into this crushing reality comes with unbearable pain—but strength, remembrance and community is important for us to honor such a loving, kind and remarkable person.

    There was no pretention with Dave. He was there, with a smile, with a joke and whether it was energy and excitement or genuine conversation Dave was ready to give to those around him. He was a great listener and always remembered previous conversations. He asked about your family, friends, things that are happening in your life. I remembered he would often ask, “Hey, how is your sister doing?” and I would reply, “I think she’s pretty good. You’ve met her?” to which he would say “of course, [insert when and what they talked about here]”. The way he not just showed, but really had interest in the details of my life and my family meant so much to me. It spoke not just to his manners or memory but the selflessness of his character.

    Dave was all about sharing himself and his passions with others. When he saw an opportunity to deepen his friendship with someone he took it. No matter the situation, he was confident in his ability to contribute. Dave had no problem jumping on the drums with Eleanor and my band, or calling me relentlessly to buy a motorcycle so we could ride together. When he found out I was into fishing, that was it, we were going fishing. Some of my fondest memories of Dave were the fishing trips we took—one in particular—where I earned the name “Sheila” from the boat’s captain due to my lazy/confused approach to the sport. Dave of course got a great laugh for my new name but was quick to teach me how to make some improvements and regain a bit of my dignity—and before you knew it, I pulled in a 38 pound Striped Bass (the biggest of the day). When I snagged it, he was more excited for me than even I was—he was just so happy to have helped a friend. These trips gave me the opportunity to meet Dave’s family—Don, Ann Marie, Sarah and Krey. Dave would speak about them often and with such adoration. Their closeness, sense of humor and graciousness towards me as a guest, showed that the apple did not fall far from the tree. I thank them so much for those experiences as they will always be with me. My heart breaks for them, while I remain confident that the closeness I witnessed, and the love Dave spoke of will only strengthen as they endure this tragedy.

    For all who knew Dave, his passing will always be painful, but there is an undeniable silver lining. In the last week I have seen friendships reconciled and strengthened—something Dave and I had talked about often. He wanted to see the people he cared about to be together and support each other—so right now, I can only imagine the ear-to-ear grin on his face. I am touched to see the humanity and love shown to my friend Eleanor and look forward to all of us being there for Dave’s deserving family tomorrow. I am so thankful and so proud to have known David Laduzenski, and there is no better way to honor his departing than supporting the people he loved so dearly.

    We will make you proud buddy. Will miss you always. – Jud

  104. Marc Heddy says:

    I didn’t know Dave but I have been struck by the outpouring of affection from those who knew and loved him.
    My heart goes out to all of his friends and family.
    —Marc Heddy

  105. Jill Sullivan says:

    My favorite memory of Dave is the 4th of July 2010. He was the most gracious captain that day, handling Noah’s boat with the utmost care and appreciation. So full of joy that is was downright contagious. His passion for friends, family and especially Eleanor was always worn on his sleeve. He will be profoundly missed by all who was graced by his presence. I do not consider myself a religious person but this trajedy has created an urge in me to pray for his survivors. We are praying for you Eleanor.

    Jill and Noah

  106. April says:

    I worked with Dave for a few weeks during December and January at NK. I did not know him well, but his energetic, cheerful, and kind spirit was apparent even during my brief interactions with him. The news of his death was shocking, to say the least and it has affected me deeply. My heart is breaking for Eleanor and the rest of his family. He was a such a good soul… that is evident in these remembrances, both visual and written. I am praying you find a peace that passes understanding.

  107. Nick says:

    Dave was my Freshman year Roomate at Northeastern- We had a room that was probably meant for 1 guy, and instead had 3 of us. Living in such tight spaces you really do get to know eachother well. I can tell you that Dave from Day 1 was a unique and awesome person. Our 3rd Floor in White Hall named him “Crazy Dave” just because his energy level and well, crazy way of doing things! That really was what we loved about him most. I was in shock when I saw this news and so were many of the fellas that shared those halls freshman year. I tell a lot of stories from our first year at NU, many of which involve Dave. He will be missed. My prayers and love to his whole family. May he never be forgotten.

  108. Kelly W says:

    I’m still in shock about the sad news of our dear friend Dave. I remember him as this loud, spunky, energetic guy who was always go-go-go. I’m a fairly mellow person and just was always thinking ‘how does he do it’ — taking care of his garden, his motorcycle, traveling, fishing, doing a bajillion things with eleanor, going to all of her shows, working double jobs… the guy had a real go get ’em attitude and it’s inspired me and other friends to really go actually conquer the world with a more passion and a positive attitude.

    I remember he was so beyond excited when he was invited on a fishing trip in Gloucester with some friends. He was one of the few who didn’t catch anything but was over the moon for everyone else that did:) That was always his attitude.
    And when silly me left my tent at home on the Saco canoe trip – he and Eleanor graciously let Marguerite and I cuddle up with them in theirs. haha. So generous and making sure everyone always had a good time!

    Just recently was his birthday and I nearly didn’t make it out. I am so glad I did because it was a lot of fun, we found out about the new house, and whenever the jazz band played “happy birthday” and everyone sang — he was so overjoyed. I’ve never seen anyone that happy over something so simple. The smile on his face was infectious.

    And to all those folks out there who don’t know Dave, his family, or friends – and are leaving notes on this page, your kind words and blessings to these hurting families are so appreciated. Your random acts of kindness are inspiring to me and I look to become a better and more positive person out of this whole experience.

    Much love to all – family and friends

  109. Annie Wood says:

    Eleanor and Family,

    My heart and prayers go out to all of you.

    I didnt know Dave that well but he brought a lot of fun and happiness to the Mt Snow ski trip. One awesome memory I have of Dave:
    On the annual ski trip this year, I heard that people
    were going into one of the hut tubs so I went searching
    to find them. I knew I found the right condo because of
    all the laughter I heard. As I walked up the stairs I saw
    David and Eleanors beaming smiles… and about 10 people
    in a 4 person hot tub. Personally, I would not have jumped
    in there but everyone was having a really good time and
    Davids upbeat personality had a lot to do with that.

    Eleanor, I am so sorry for what you are going through. Your love for each other is so beautiful. He will always be with you to provide support and love when your in need. Your family and friends are here for you. I will be thinking of you both.


  110. Sarah Palley says:

    Dear Dave,

    How I wish tomorrow was really April fools….I wish that some sort of silly cartoon would pop out and announce how this past week never really happened. I told Eleanor that if I was able to come in contact with that magic wand everyone wishes they had, I would change the tragic events that occurred.

    I remember being at my old office, seeing Eleanor arrive, her incredibly sweet story about your first date. It was like she went on vacation overnight. You made her glow with happiness. I soon became to realize how amazing, hilarious, and special you were to her, and how you shined to all of us. Whether it was those squinty eyes when you laughed, that beard that was here one day and gone the next like the warm weather in New England, you were truly someone who I will never forget. Pointing at Eleanor, “can you believe she….she….is…my girlfriend?” always cracked me up. As much as her eyes rolled with your cheesy lines, you were sincere in your feelings towards her; your love for her, and her love towards you will never fade.

    I was just thinking about the time I saw you at Nashoba Valley Winery…I was walking to the main store and had just put on this lip gloss that was pretty vibrant. I tripped walking through the mud and had pursed my lips while internally mocking myself for wearing heels to go apple picking. As I looked up, you had just parked your bike, and were taking off your helmet. The first thing you said to me was not “hello!”, but “whoa you got something on your teeth…ughhh”. I think I turned as red as my lip gloss….you were definitely not a regular guy, but incredibly fabulously unique, which is hard to find. I really valued your ability to be friendly with so many people, yet you never faltered at who you were. I looked up to you so highly in that manner, you helped me realize that being myself is the best me I can be.

    All I can think about is all the good times we shared, and how much I will miss you. I don’t know who started calling you “Lad” but you will be my favorite Lad forever. Although this tragedy is an unbelievably sad and gloomy period to all who knew you, you will always be the light in our hearts that will handsomely shine through these dark times.

    Goodbye for now, Dave.

  111. Anonymous says:

    I didn’t know Dave, but my heart goes out to all those who loved him, especially his fiance, family and close friends. He was clearly an amazing person that was taken far too soon. May you all find comfort in the wonderful memories you have. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

    “If ever there is tomorrow when we’re not together…there is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think, but the most important thing is, even if we’re apart…I’ll always be with you.”~Winnie the Pooh

  112. It’s been difficult for me to pull myself together and try to put words onto paper, and I don’t even know where to begin so I’m just going to type…

    Dave, Crazy Dave, CZD, was and always will be one of my best friends. He was undeniably beyond an amazing person who was true to the heart, genuine, loving, caring, respectable, honorable, intelligent, free spirited, fun loving, and truly a man that made anyone better just having known him.

    It’s clear that during Dave’s time he has made an enormous impact on all our lives, touched so many of our hearts, and for that we will always be grateful.

    I can’t even begin to think what I will do without him in my life. Not just the void at all the big events and fun times we all spend together, but just the regular day to day conversations and joking around. Dave’s the kind of guy who would just call to say hello and see how you are, even if you were going to see him the next day. It didn’t matter. And even if you missed his call, he’d leave you a funny message, send a picture, or even a video which would undoubtedly always make you laugh. When your that close with someone, it numbs you to think of life without them, and I’m still shock and disbelief that this has actually happened.

    Dave will leave many things behind for us to cherish, and one of those things is our beloved memories with him. Trying to sum up countless memories we shared would be impossible, but if I had to say one thing, they were all GREAT!. There are so many but I’d still like to share a few that come to mind as I type…

    •Coming home one day from class, and Dave was gluing broken pieces of mirror onto our mantel wall. It was an unannounced, spontaneous, and an amazingly impressive surprise. To my disbelief he had already almost successfully completed the creation of a wave atop our entire blue painted mantel. And I will always remember the one small curved piece of glass sticking out the top of that artistic masterpiece. Why? Because when I asked what’s up with that piece, he said “nothing, it’s a happy little fish, he’s flipping around”. And that just goes to show how happy he was every single day.
    • Just weeks ago I was able to plan another successful ski trip, and I’m overwhelmed with joy knowing that it gave everyone that last hoorah with Dave. It makes you realize how very important it is to make time to spend with the ones you love, no matter what it is your doing, or how you get everyone together.
    •During the time in college when Dave , Adam, Erez, and myself all lived together ,we had a monthly calendar on the wall and every single day was filled with more than just hilarious commentary. I still have that calendar, and it will always be a priceless memory and a testament to how incredibly funny he always was.
    •Your expression when you opened your bedroom door and realized we stacked and made pyramids of Dixie cups all over your entire room, and then better yet finding one a year later in a shirt pocket.
    •Sledding down Sunday river at night with garbage can covers, next to our ski out rooms.
    •Always asking me over for dinner, and making it a point to bring people together for family style dinners even when we were already together.
    •Frisbee golf, where we nicknamed our team the “Dingleberry Diskers”
    •Super Smash brothers! Kicking his butt “Falco” with “Samus” every single time. : )
    •The credited creation of “Choad-em-pole”
    •Graduation…which may not be appropriate but funny is funny, and I quote Dave: “we’re not little peckers anymore, we’re big peckers, we’re Cocks!”
    •Road trip after road trip, in my p.o.s. suzuki vitera, which he rightfully nicknamed “The Diarrhea Box”
    •Every single time he came over my place after college, sneaking my spider plant (Stink Plant) something to drink other than water, and was caught every time.
    •Sunday river, Dave went pond skimming.
    His Saco Bound Trips, My Mt Snow Ski Trips, His Parrot Head Sunday River Trips, Erez’s Lake House, Ed’s Ski Trips, Timma’s Lake House, Nick and Steve’s Memorial Day, Leslies Cape House, 487 Mass Ave…and more.
    •My Halloween Birthday parties, which we always went above and beyond with his costumes. In fact he will be credited for having the best costume ever, for those who know.
    •Dave’s birthday in his garage, playing with that helicopter…I don’t know why it came to mind.
    •The Adam chicken wopper story
    •Fashioning his ring to be more useful than one might think
    •Coming back home from the eyeglass store and realizing I just subconsciously purchased the same eye glasses he wore every day.
    •Making sure I always had a back up contact for him when we went snowboarding, since he was prone to losing his.

    Undoubtedly many of our memories are of good times and or funny events, which if you know me I tend to focus on. But somewhere in between we managed to grow up, and it goes without saying that many of my memories include: influential talks, life changing moments, great successes, taking care of one another through our up’s and downs, relationships, moving, stress, school, jobs, and much more. It’s an amazing bond to have with someone, and for those of us who have shared that bond with Dave will without a doubt be eternally grateful.

    Some of Dave’s FAVS:

    •Umbrella Ella Ella, El, Nor, Elanor Rigby, His love of his life
    •Family and Friends
    •Something like this: “ ><{{{*>” Orange and grey
    •Riding his bike, and bicycle
    •Solidworks, : )
    •Music, mixing, music, techno, music, all kinds. Postal Service “Such great heights”, EWF “Lets groove tonight”. “Dirty Sticky Floors”, “I Engineer”, Frank Sinatra, James Brown.
    •Snakes,VITA, Reptiles, Spiders
    •Fixing anything of yours that’s broken
    •His dad wine, Gin and Tonic, Mango Vodka
    •Super Smash Brothers, Zelda, Magic The Gathering, and yes DDR

    Dave, your beautiful smile will always shine in all our hearts. I am proud to say I knew you, honored you were my friend, and blessed to have you as one of my best friends. You have made me a better person and I thank you for that. I will always love you bro, 212 forever CZD, chk chk, whistle whistle, peace peace yo.

    Johnny Boy

  113. a fellow terrier says:

    i must admit that i did not recognize dave by name when i first heard this tragic story. but then, a photo of that smile – an instant lightbulb of memory, what a spirit he always had. almost as instantly, that light of happy memory was replaced with a wretched feeling of mourning for such a precious life lost.

    but that’s not right either, is it? dave lived his life more in his 29 years than some people do in quadruple that time. his open, unabashed approach to love and friendship should be celebrated and remembered and lived – and so we must.

    i, for one, will think of dave the next time i am sitting in the audience instead of picking out the next karaoke song. instead, i will do what he would have done – get up there and give it my best james brown.

    to eleanor and the entire laduzenski family, may you find peace in the memories of a life extremely well lived.

  114. Rebecca Crum-Lynch says:

    A letter to Dave,

    As I sit here and write, I cant believe god has stripped us of such a talented young soul 29 years way to young. I have let this be a lesson to myself; to become a better mother, to become a better wife, to become a better friend, and to become a better person. I will take your viberance, and share it will the world to teach people that life is defiantly to short. I will never forget the time in college when Julianne and I came to visit you in Boston, and you made us share a room with your best friend (the snake). I was absolutley horrified! but then I realized that you would never ever but us in harms way, and promised us that she would be OK. Iam honored that I was able to share one of your very last conversations. As we talked about “the snake” one last time, to talking about your big proposal to El, you were smiles ear to ear. We promise to take good care of her.
    Watch over us all and help guide us, we all have an angel up above.

    “Do not stand at my grave and weep
    Iam not there, I do not sleep
    Iam a thousand winds that blow
    Iam the diamonds gift of snow
    Iam the sunlight on ripened grain
    Iam the autumns gentle rain
    When you awaken in the mornings hush
    Iam the swift uplifting rush
    Of quiet birds in circled flight
    Iam the soft starts that shine at night
    Do not stand at my grave and cry
    Iam not there, I did not die”

    Your good name will be passed on for years to come. We shall never forget you.
    Take Care Up There,

  115. Someone who never met him, but has been touched says:

    To: John Anastasio (Johnny Boy), Thank you for explaining the wave on the wall. I have looked at the picture and wondered….
    I am so inspired by this man that I never met.
    Inspired to live happier. Love more deeply. I hate what happened and that you all lost him… But I rush to the computer each day to read this website.

    To: “Eddy”, You broke my heart – what a special friendship. That made me want to honor my loved ones and cherish them.

  116. Lindsay says:

    Dear Dave,
    I know you aren’t on this earth anymore, but I can’t help but write to you as if you were laughing with your friends, sharing funny stories and good times or dressing up in costume at the big Halloween bash. You have made your mark on this earth and an everlasting impression. I never saw a frown on your sweet face, but rather a perky smile with a contagious laugh. You are love by many and will be missed always.

    with deepest sympathy,

  117. Niels says:

    I vaguely remember meeting Dave my sophomore year of college, he was two years ahead of me at Northeastern – we have been friends ever since and in recent years I would say our bond had grown significantly. I love that he was a dreamer – somebody who dared to dream! Amongst my close friends he was in particular the man knew the best things in life are earned – he loved a fabulous woman, he worked two jobs, held down an array of activities and made time for all of us. He really lived up to that level day-in-and-out, how he carried himself and maintained so many relationships and friendships. Simultaneously developing those relationships and bringing people together is most noble. When I read Ed’s story the other night and of Dave’s gesture, saving the rose for him, a wave of thoughts left me overcome with my emotions and in tears – that was so powerful and beautiful. I am forever grateful for this story and everything that we shared with you Dave.

    I have a short story to share with you all, I don’t know if it is my favorite but I loved this day all the same. Last summer in August Dave invited me to go deep-sea fishing with him, his dad, and other friends. We needed to be in Groton CT by 6:00 am latest, which meant leaving Boston a bit before 4:00 am. Well I got up in time, stopped at a gas station on the way over and realized that the place was closed – and that I left my cell phone at home! THEN I got to Dave and Eleanor’s place to realize that they had just left. I knew it was because I stopped for gas . . . . . . . (insert hyper sleep deprived frustration)

    I was tired; clearly irritated I missed the launch time, and unable to reach the mother ship. By some act of fate one of his neighbors was outside drinking a beer at 3:45 am on his porch – I hollered at this guy and said something to the effect of ‘Man, I need to use your internet to get the phone number to call the car to figure out the deal’! He lets me into his place which is fashioned similar to a scene from the movie Trainspotting – though he kindly offered me a Narragansett. I got Dave on the phone now and he says the boat is leaving at 6:00 so drive down if you can make it!

    In this moment I am caught between: it is almost 4:00am, go home and get some sleep. Or: stop being a Jones’r and drive down there immediately.

    So I drove to CT, stopped for gas on the pike and DDs to devour a huge coffee  made it to the dock on time at 6:00 am. Dave was in awe as was our crew that I managed to make it down there on time solo – victory. We caught Stripper Bass and Blue’s with Sheila (See Judson :0D ) and it was a beautiful day – we grilled later and roasted veggies on the grill. After the catch, Judson and I drove back from CT together and we enjoyed each other’s company. Over that fishing trip was how Jud and I connected as friends. Dave was so great at bringing people together, you can see reading the stories here how often of a theme this was in his life.

    He had so much character that through that character I pushed through the strangeness of this neighbor/ slightly-twisted-apartment-early-morning-encounter, and then the drive, to be there. I am so glad that was the decision I made that day.

    Dave was a friend who did things he said he was going to do and I wanted to live up to that in this moment. With Dave everything was so fun and light hearted, spending time with him was easy and he genuinely cared for people. There was no pretense with him and he was always smiling! I can see from reading everyone’s words and so many great pictures added to the site that he shined so bright – he was amazing like that. He inspired me to be a better person and in his death to love one another more deeply, and I can see that I am not alone in this regard.

    To honor your life and our friendship I will continue to work hard for what matters most like you did Dave. I will remember to be there for my loved ones and maybe be as thoughtful as you were sometimes ;0 ) I am going to miss you so much and am heartbroken for your Eleanor, family and everyone you left. But I believe that your light will be with all of us as we are with you now and forever. I’ll never forget singing ‘In My Life’ for you with our friends at the hospital.

    Thank you for being such a wonderful friend.

  118. 212 says:

    So many memories come to my mind when I think of you Dave. Where do I begin?
    Haha the Buick, that’s where. We wouldn’t drive down the road in that, we sailed down the road in the big boat!! Our first hangout at the go-karts, graphic arts class, coloring my hair with markers, the blue dress, GREY AND ORANGE all the way, big pimpin, dancing, laughing, sooo many adventures, mountains, skinny ankles, drawing our hands over and over and over until I finally got it right (and the good grade), Under The Big Oak Tree (thats no longer there btw), smashing my mirror only to reassemble it on the tiny wall I could call my own in my dorm, many New Years, wrapping ourselves in toilet paper like mummies :), Huke Lau, scorpion bowls, drunken ice skating and more laughing.

    Do you know what time it is? It’s two twelve. What felt like an hour later, what time is it now? Two twelve…. Now?? TWO TWELVE!! The lady bug, the lion, the spiders and snakes. WWIBWY Vita… Ja Rule hahaha Hot 93.7 Jingle Jam that man should have never pulled his pants down on stage! That silver ring on your middle finger, you tapped it on EVERYTHING!

    I am sorry for what happened, it was so random. My heart hurts for those who were close to you in the recent years. I hope your soul is flying high and free, sailing through the clouds in your big blue boat, volume up, bass bumpin… Big Pimpin’

  119. 212 says:

    He called her on the road from a lonely cold hotel room
    Just to hear her say, “I love you one” more time
    But when he heard the sound
    Of the kids laughin’ in the background

    He had to wipe away a tear from his eye
    A little voice came on the phone
    Said, “Daddy when you comin’ home?”
    He said the first thing that came to his mind

    I’m already there
    Take a look around
    I’m the sunshine in your hair
    I’m the shadow on the ground

    I’m the whisper in the wind
    I’m your imaginary friend
    And I know, I’m in your prayers
    Oh I’m already there

    She got back on the phone
    Said, “I really miss you darlin'”
    “Don’t worry about the kids they’ll be alright
    Wish I was in your arms, lyin’ right there beside you”

    “But I know that I’ll be in your dreams tonight
    And I’ll gently kiss your lips
    Touch you with my fingertips
    So turn out the light and close your eyes”

    I’m already there
    Don’t make a sound
    I’m the beat in your heart
    I’m the moonlight shinin’ down

    I’m the whisper in the wind
    And I’ll be there ’til the end
    Can you feel the love that we share?
    Oh I’m already there

    We may be a thousand miles apart
    But I’ll be with you wherever you are

    I’m already there
    Take a look around
    I’m the sunshine in your hair
    I’m the shadow on the ground

    I’m the whisper in the wind
    And I’ll be there ’til the end
    Can you feel the love that we share?
    Oh I’m already there
    Oh I’m already there

  120. Joanna Grigas says:

    Dave was fun, outgoing and thoughtful. I think he did one of the kindest things I’ve ever experienced: while he was out in Vietnam, I was going to take a graduate exam. The day my exam was held, an envelope came in that had a mix CD of songs to pump me up for my test. He had a friend mail it while he was gone so I’d get it at the right moment. Listening to it on the way made me feel ready.

    Having him pass on is so hard to understand. I think the important thing is that he lived such a full life, as everyone has said. While this causes so much heartbreak for his friends, his family and Eleanor, he was truly happy.

    I always admired how New Orleans funerals were more about the celebration of life than of death. So while Dave might be gone from here, he lives on in our positive memories of him.

  121. Maite says:

    Dave, I’ve been thinking of you every day since last Saturday,
    I know you are not away.

    Nothing disappears, everything transforms,
    Such is the mysterious law of chemistry.
    The universe is vibrant of your energy.
    You are here among us, just under other forms.

    I remember when we went to “Sleep No More”,
    We were so dazzled that we kept wanting an encore.
    I feel so thankful to have shared, with you, these moments,
    That you loved so much that you also shared with
    Eleanor and your parents.

    I remember when the 4 of us were playing Rummikub,
    You played Diana Ross’ “I’m coming out” tube,
    And we danced! You were a beautiful human being;
    In my head, a picture of you and your magnificent smile, always beaming.

    Tuesday, March 22, 2011 is the last time we saw each other.
    I’m honored that you took the time to say “hi” and “bye” to me,
    And I will always remember your funny story
    That made us burst into laughter.

    Dave, you’ve shown the world how to give and be positive.
    Your spreading love, forever with us, lives.

    I miss you, but I feel your eternal presence in our
    lives. My heart goes out to your beautiful Eleanor,
    your parents, and loved ones.


  122. pat says:

    i didn’t know david, but i wish i did. My condolences to the family. It has been 20 yrs for me, and that hole in your heart never heals, so sorry for you loss.

  123. Gayle Buynicki says:

    After reading all of the comments here, I regret never knowing Dave. Dave had a full, wonderful life ahead of him and it is such a horrible nightmare that his life was taken by someone who decided to get into a car and drive while being drunk!! Unfortunately drinking and driving will never change for some people.. if they only would realize that the lives of the victim and the lives of their families have changed forever!! Rest in peace, Dave and may God hold you in the palm of his hands <3

  124. Anonymous says:

    “If Tomorrow Starts Without Me”

    When tomorrow starts without me,
    And I’m not there to see,
    If the sun should rise and find your eyes
    all filled with tears for me,

    I wish so much you wouldn’t cry
    The way you did today,
    While thinking of the many things,
    We didn’t get to say.

    I know how much you love me,
    As much as I love you,
    and each time that you think of me,
    I know you’ll miss me too.

    But when tomorrow starts without me,
    Please try to understand,
    That an angel came and called my name,
    And took me by the hand,
    and said my place was ready,
    In heaven far above,
    And that I’d have to leave behind
    All those I dearly love.

    But as I turned to walk away,
    A tear fell from my eye
    For all my life, I’d always thought,
    I didn’t want to die.

    I had so much to live for,
    So much left yet to do,
    It seemed almost impossible,
    That I was leaving you.

    I thought of all the yesterdays
    The good ones and the bad,
    I thought of all the love we shared,
    and all the fun we had

    If I could re-live yesterday
    Just even for a while,
    I’d say good-bye and kiss you
    And maybe see you smile.

    But then I fully realized,
    That this could never be,
    For emptiness and memories,
    would take the place of me.

    And when I thought of worldly things,
    I might miss come tomorrow,
    I thought of you, and when I did,
    My heart was filled with sorrow.

    But when I walked through heaven’s gates,
    I felt so much at home
    When God looked down and smiled at me,
    From His great golden throne.

    He said, “This is eternity,
    And all I’ve promised you.”
    Today your life on earth is past,
    But here life starts anew

    I promise no tomorrow,
    But today will always last,
    And since each day’s the same way
    There’s no longing for the past.

    You have been so faithful,
    So trusting and so true.
    Though there were times
    You did some things
    You knew you shouldn’t do.

    But you have been forgiven
    And now at last you’re free.
    So won’t you come and take my hand
    And share my life with me?

    So when tomorrow starts without me,
    Don’t think we’re far apart,
    For every time you think of me,
    I’m right here, in your heart.

  125. wendy says:

    so sorry for your loss .god bless

  126. Ryan and Johanna says:

    The first time meeting Dave– at my birthday party (your now anniversary). You both had that gushing glow. And so the adventure began. Watching and listening to you two grow into one another over the past three years is something I will always cherish. Sharing our wedding day with you and Dave is one of the warmest memories I can recall—how he brightened our day with his smile and smooth dance moves (always making you instantaneously laugh and giggle). Dave, had messaged me recently saying how much he enjoyed looking though our wedding photos and asking how married life was. I replied that I couldn’t believe he had taken the time to look through all the photos. I said married life was “same old same old” and that I loved being in love. I wrote how lucky he was that Eleanor and him had found one another– and were in love. Because, after all, finding your soul mate and sharing that love is one of greatest fortunes and feelings in the world. Dave’s next response will live with me forever—he said, “Yes, we are quite blessed.” And that was the special man I knew. The one who never took anything for granted and whose positivity will forever inspire me (and remind me) to find the blessings in my life. Ryan and I will miss you. Peace be with you, Dave.

  127. JACK says:

    I worked with Dave at Haemonetics, he was a really fun kid, we teased him all the time and he took it well and teased back. He was a talented Engineer
    The world is a sadder place without this funny, funny kid
    I am so glad I got to know Dave
    Shame on the person that took him for NO reason.

  128. Drew says:

    I have not met anyone more genuinely happy than Dave. What an inspiration we were living with! While living in charlestown with Rachel, I noticed Dave made daily lists for himself. We had seen one and looked at it…..
    clean room
    clean car(the boat he used to drive)
    …(and at the very bottom of the list)….
    We laughed… i can’t stop thinking about it, now i can’t stop thinking about how good of a person you really were, to your amazing families, and the most amazing group of friends that has ever been assembled.
    Thank you Dave, for your never ending love

  129. SBM says:

    God’s Lent Child

    “I’ll lend you for a little while
    A child of mine”, God said –
    “For you to love the while he lives
    And mourn for when he’s dead.

    It may be six of seven years,
    Or forty two or three;
    But will you, ’til I call him back
    Take care of him for Me?

    He’ll bring his charms to gladden you
    And should his stay be brief,
    You’ll have his lovely memories
    As solace for your grief.

    I cannot promise he will stay,
    Since all from Earth return.
    But there are lessons taught below
    I want this child to learn.

    I’ve looked the whole world over
    In my search for teachers true;
    And from the things that crowd life’s lane
    I have chosen you.

    Now, will you give him all your love?
    Nor think the labor vain?
    Nor hate me when I take
    this Lent Child back again?”

    I fancied that I heard them say,
    “Dear Lord, Thy will be done.
    For all the joys thy child will bring
    The risk of grief we’ll run.

    We will shelter him with tenderness,
    We’ll love him while we may.
    And for the happiness we’ve known,
    Forever grateful stay.

    But should Thy angels call on him
    Much sooner than we’ve planned,
    We’ll brave the bitter grief that comes
    And try to understand.”

  130. Someone who never met him, but has been touched says:

    I still come here everyday to look for updates on Dave’s life. Who his wonderful friends were, how his loved ones might be coping. I still can’t imagine how you are all getting through this.

    I really love the photos so much.

    I enjoyed the sunny weekend that we just had like I never have before. I really tried to live in the moment. I thank Dave for that.

    God Bless.

    • Maura Bertolino says:

      I think this is amazing. I am impressed, yet not at all surprised, that Dave has touched lives he has not even met. I swear he will always have this effect.

      Thank you for taking your time to comment. May Dave always touch your life positively as he will continue to impact ours 🙂

  131. Brad & CJ says:

    We did not know Dave personally, but are good friends with Sandy & Ron Paradis, his aunt and uncle in Florida. After reading some of the other postings, it is extremely sad to realize that a truly wonderful person was taken from this world by the selfishness of another human being. Our hearts go out to his family, friends and especially his fiance and our thoughts and prayers are with them as they try to get through this tragic time in their lives.

  132. Frank Di Bella says:

    To David’s Family: With the hope that my comments are some comfort at a moment such as this, please know that I knew David as a creative, energetic, passionate, and very engaging student in my classes at Northeastern University. Having David as a student made my teaching him all the more pleasant and at the same time, often very challenging while trying to help with the many creative ideas that he had in his mind to built or just tinker with. The motor cycle in the funeral home reminded me of his first independent course project that he convinced me that he could pull-off. It was to design and build a recombent motor cycle; a motor cycle that you could almost be lying down in to drive! This as a sophmore or midler year student was very challenging but he and his friend were able to learn enough of planning and budgeting of a project of this size that it was trully a worthwhile learning experience; probably more than he could have learned from a textbook course.

    I always try to “…keep in touch” with my students after their graduation. David was one of only a handfull who take me seriously about this and we did meet again shortly after his graduation when I asked him to help out in teaching a lab course in the evening at NU. Fortunately, another student who has “kept in touch” notified me of David’s accident because now I can add my prayers for David along with the many others that have been said during the last week.

    Thank you for David. He made an impression on me that I will share with others on how to live, to learn, and to love.

    Frank Di Bella
    formerly: Assoc. Prof. of Mechanical Engineering Technology at Northeastern University and Director of NU’s School of Engineering Technology

  133. Dean says:

    I did not know David I read the story on my fox and I just had to comment to the family that the story got to me and my heart goes out to you. God bless you all.

  134. Ann Marie Laduzenski says:

    Hello to all of David’s friends,

    Don and I are extremely touched by all your stories and the love you have shown towards us and Sarah. There are many experiences that you have shared that either we did not know about or that we had forgotten. Let me share his last evening with you.

    Don, David and I went out to dinner to the Hofbrauhaus in West Springfield. For all the years we lived in WS he had never been there. As we were waiting for our food, I asked him how he liked the atmosphere. He said it was kind of morose. I responded, “David, morose means having to do with death. It just has a lot of old-fashioned character.” This restaurant is decorated to resemble old-world Germany, with beer steins and dark wood on the walls. The waitresses dress in dirndls. We ordered our meals. Part of David’s meal included their famous red cabbage. He really enjoyed it, likening it to “Christmas.” I said, “Christmas?” So he gave me a taste and I said “it DOES taste like Christmas…cinnamon and nutmeg.” I had had their cabbage before and had never thought of that. We talked about many things. We made plans for the following day: a fitting for a tuxedo for Sarah’s wedding and shopping for an engagement ring for Eleanor which he had designed. We also talked about his future with Eleanor and the house they were purchasing together. While we were talking, I was thinking that our little boy had grown up into a man who was making plans for his future. It was a very pleasant evening. At one point, he leaned back in his chair after eating and said he couldn’t believe he was going to be 30. I said, “David, you just turned 29. I’m going to be 60.” He said, “I’m never going to see 60.” I said “Why would you say that?” But he didn’t respond. We let him choose dessert. From all the choices he picked German Chocolate Cake and he had to have a side of vanilla ice cream to go along with it. He loved the way they wrapped up the leftovers in the form of a swan made out of foil. He tore a small piece in the tail of his so he could tell it was his from the rest of ours. He always had to do something a little different. Then we drove home. Once we arrived home he told us that he wanted to go over to his good friend, Julianne’s house to congratulate her on her new engagement. He left our house, only to return a few seconds later. I don’t know why he came in. Did those few seconds change history? Did that cause him to be in the wrong place at the wrong time? We will never know.

    David is a loving son, who cares about his family and friends. After reading all of these posts, I realize just how many lives he has touched in this world. Let us all strive to make a positive difference in this world like David did.

    Thank you all for sharing your special David experiences with us. They are a comfort and a treasure to us.

    Please keep in touch.

    Love, Ann Marie, Don and Sarah Laduzenski

    • Sheryle Marceau says:

      Thank you for sharing your last evening with David with all of us. I am so glad you had that time with him. This must be so incredibly hard for you!
      I admire you so much for your strentgh, stamina and courage in the face of this tremendous tragedy. Dave is so proud of you!
      And to think you were able to save 6 lives! David would have wanted that, in spite of how hard a decision that must have been in some ways.
      So he lives on, in a sense. In our hearts, and truly in the bodies of others!
      Don & Ann Marie, you raised a wonderful person who is still touching the lives of others and will continue to do so.
      Thank you for David.

      With Ongoing Love & Prayers,
      Sheryle, Michael, Ryan & Brendan Marceau

      The Rose Beyond the Wall

      Near a shady wall a rose once grew,
      Budded and blossomed in God’s free light,
      Watered and fed by the morning dew,
      Shedding it’s sweetness day and night.

      As it grew and blossomed fair and tall,
      Slowly rising to loftier height,
      It came to a crevice in the wall
      Through which there shone a beam of light.

      Onward it crept with added strength
      With never a thought of fear or pride,
      It followed the light through the crevice’s length
      And unfolded itself on the other side.

      The light, the dew, the broadening view
      Were found the same as they were before,
      And it lost itself in beauties new,
      Breathing it’s fragrance more and more.

      Shall claim of death cause us to grieve
      And make our courage faint and fall?
      Nay! Let us faith and hope receive–
      The rose still grows beyond the wall,

      Scattering fragrance far and wide
      Just as it did in days of yore,
      Just as it did on the other side,
      Just as it will forevermore.

      ~ A. L. Frink ~

  135. Nanci Newton says:

    I heard the news about Dave’s tragic accident as I was about to board a plane for vacation. I was in shock! I actually prayed for most of the flight, wiping tears, for Dave, his Parent’s , Eleanor and the group of “kids” I knew as 12 & 13 year olds so many years ago. I was Dave’s middle school band director.
    I could not get into vacation mode and didn’t really want to. I was in such shock for days! Quiet tears, disbelief, anger, sadness …numb!

    I remember this group well (Dave, Julianne, Emily , Sarah, Ed, Jay, Ryan just to name a few) because they are the students I was teaching (1996) when I had to suddenly take a leave. I was in a terrible car accident and had many months of healing ahead of me. The students were not sure what had really happened to me.
    My life changed in that instant and I couldn’t believe I might not see these “kids” ever again. I might not ever be a band director again. I moved to the Boston area to live with family as I healed. I am now completely healed and have a new career but it was the AMAZING band memories that got me through the hardest of times. GO BAND!

    I am thankful for Facebook because once one student found me … there was a flood of invites ( I felt so popular) Many former students sending me well wishes and great stories or their memories of band & “The CAVE” which was what they called my office under the stage. It was their hangout. You would not have wanted to be in there the last few days of school ….Pee U (too many stinky kids) but we loved it.

    I can’t think of just one Dave memory but I can say my first thought is that he was really good at being 12. Most days I remember thinking two things…do I want to choke him today or hug him & how can you get mad when he is so funny and kind. He thought it was funny to time a woopie cushion “fart” exactly on a REST so the whole band would start laughing.
    He was so Dave …
    I have a note that the entire drum section sent to me while I was on leave. Before we knew if I was going to return or not, Mr. Baker was my sub for many months. It went something like this:
    ” Dear Miss Newton
    We are wicked wicked wicked wicked etc. mad at you for not teaching us anymore. We thought you were coming back …huh? What the hell ( sorry for the swear but we’re pissed) We hope you are feeling better.
    We hate Mr. baker. We are all going to quit if you don’t come back soon. Mr. Baker kisses all the girls ( just kidding) . Well we miss you. A LOT
    Broken hearted ( with a drawing of a broken heart ) with a sad face and tears
    and all the kids signed it.
    Dave and this group of “band kids” friends have taught us all a valuable life lesson. We all touch each other in ways we may never know and it is important to live for today … to be happy, kind and true.

    Until our chats on Facebook ( many still call me Miss Newton ) I never knew Dave or any of these “kids” as adults. They have grown up as I knew they would. Good people!
    They watch out for each other, they support & are there for each other, they ENJOY each other and the bond they have can never be broken.

    I will be forever grateful for the gift of knowing Dave and all of these amazing young “kids” ( they are all still kids to me)
    Let’s smile for Dave everyday. Let’s continue to support & be nice to each other.
    Have fun!
    My deepest sympathy to his parents, Sarah, Eleanor and his many friends.
    Each sunrise is Dave smiling for us!
    Rest In Peace , Dave.

    Miss Newton

    • Someone who never met you, Miss Newton, or anyone else on this site, but has been touched says:

      You, along with others, are so dear to share your personal thoughts and stories about Dave. And, to think that there are those of us who read this website every day and have never met anyone on this site. It’s almost as if Dave is again spinning his magic, as someone wrote, and bringing people together. I feel like I have been drawn in by a magnet of boundless love from all those who knew and loved Dave. May it continue to flow, to give strength to his “Nor” and her family and Dave’s family, knowing that love grows.

  136. Anonymous says:

    I wasn’t a friend of Dave’s, but I knew who he was. I can tell how special Dave was to his friends and family by the outpouring of emotion from all who were part of his life. I just wanted to pass along a song by the Boss that seems appropriate. It’s beautiful, and I think it’s more than fitting after reading some of the words Dave’s friends and family have shared.

    Terry’s Song by Bruce Springsteen

    Well they built the Titanic to be one of a kind, but many ships have ruled the seas
    They built the Eiffel Tower to stand alone, but they could build another if they please
    Taj Mahal, the pyramids of Egypt, are unique I suppose
    But when they built you, brother, they broke the mold

    Now the world is filled with many wonders under the passing sun
    And sometimes something comes along and you know it’s for sure the only one
    The Mona Lisa, the David, the Sistine Chapel, Jesus, Mary, and Joe
    And when they built you, brother, they broke the mold

    When they built you, brother, they turned dust into gold
    When they built you, brother, they broke the mold

    They say you can’t take it with you, but I think that they’re wrong
    ‘Cause all I know is I woke up this morning, and something big was gone
    Gone into that dark ether where you’re still young and hard and cold
    Just like when they built you, brother, they broke the mold

    Now your death is upon us and we’ll return your ashes to the earth
    And I know you’ll take comfort in knowing you’ve been roundly blessed and cursed
    But love is a power greater than death, just like the songs and stories told
    And when she built you, brother, she broke the mold

    That attitude’s a power stronger than death, alive and burning her stone cold
    When they built you, brother

  137. Andrea Esch says:

    Sarah and the Laduzenski Family:
    I didn’t know Dave, but through Sarah and all of the messages, I know that Dave was an extraordinary person.
    Someone once told me that extraordinary people don’t belong here on earth with the rest of us. When I think of the young lives that have been taken from me and from the people I love, this comment has brought me comfort. I know too many young angels in heaven and rest assured that he is in good company. Im so sorry.

  138. Jackie Kanasz says:

    To Dave’s family and friends:

    I am Adam’s little sister, and I have met Dave a few times since my brother became good friends with him at Northeastern. Although I did not know him extremely well, in the times I was around him he was always smiling and giving off a warm feeling of optimism. He always made the effort to talk to me and include me even though I was always the youngest person around, so I immediately liked him. My heart goes out to all the lives Dave touched, and I know that his legacy will last forever.


    • Kitsy says:

      I am the mother of one of Dave’s co-workers at his evening job. On my occasional visit there, I looked forward to seeing his happy smile as I entered the room. My experience in Dave’s presence is so similar to yours, Jackie — even though I was always the oldest person around! ☺ He is missed so much by us all.

  139. John Beaton says:

    Never met David, but know how much he meant to his “very proud of him” dad. David will be missed by those who didn’t even know him.

  140. bgh says:

    Life of Love

    A cottage filled with all our dreams
    Awaits at Heaven’s gate on high;
    And those we love who pass from Earth
    Dwell in that cottage in the sky.

    It’s not our decision how we pass,
    But freedom allows us to decide
    How we spend our life giving love
    And how love in return is justified.

    Knowing we, too, must pass someday
    And will leave someone else in tears,
    The thing for us to remember now
    Is the life of love in our years.

  141. Someone who never met him, but has been touched says:

    I just noticed the ticker on the bottom right that says there have been 42,000 visits on this site. That speaks for itself. I think I have been here 40,000.

  142. E.H. says:

    To David, my Love,

    I will die of a broken heart before I am able to accept the excruciating void that you have left behind. You are a beautiful soul, admired by the hundreds who you have touched with your free spirit.

    I love you. I love everything about you. Your sweet eyes, your soft hair, your youthful, energetic smile, the look of true love that consumed your entire being when I would simply catch you watching me in any passing moment. Your support and loyalty to me throughout our entire relationship was second to none. We were two peas in a pod, kindred spirits, who whole-heartedly lived life and loved each other to the fullest. You were sensitive and thoughtful beyond words – always at my side at the first sign of weakness. You were my absolute everything.

    And Love, your talents were endless. Thank you for sharing all of your hard-earned expertise with me through the years – I never cease to be amazed at your skills with gardening, cooking, engineering, critical thinking, organized vacation planning, multi-family home buying – I was so excited to be a landlord with you, Baby… your ability to seek out the positivity in light of any challenges, working with whatever it takes to do the right thing for the right outcome, finding peace in our hearts to forgive when we’ve been hurt, and your incredible sense of direction, even in uncharted territory.

    This is not how life was supposed to be. We were going to grow old together. We even spent last Halloween dressed as old people to get a taste of what we’d be seeing in each other, and you were a classy, handsome old man. We had talked about what we’d name our kids, when we’d be married, what color our wedding limo would be, how many houses we’d own by certain benchmarks in our lives, our plans to travel the world…

    You were a classy guy who cleaned up well, and looked indescribably handsome in a suit. You were a breath of fresh air to all – you made homeless people on the street feel good about themselves, but you could also mingle with the finest. Your smile was beyond infectious. You have a beautiful heart that is now living on in some very very lucky person.

    Thank you for bringing so many of us together. You brought me into ski trips with your friends, camping trips, canoe trips and weekend motorcycle excursions I would have otherwise never have known. And on every trip, you really did it right, with your meticulous planning, yet spontaneous spirit – always with a positive outlook.

    I have never known someone with as many ambitions and goals as you, Love. What you hadn’t already accomplished, you were willing and excited to try. You got my dad to trust you with our boat, you happily assimilated into my group of friends who accepted you with open arms, some of whom harbored particularly high standards for a boyfriend of mine. You were my driving force in succeeding professionally and inspired me to do my best in my job search last year, while encouraging me every step of the way with my music and art career.

    I could say a billion more endearing things about you, about how you truly made me feel so loved and appreciated more than I could ever imagine – but I will continue saying it to you only in my head, today and every day that I am without you.

    I close with a few words excerpted from a poem by W.H. Auden:

    “He was my North, my South, my East and West
    My working week and my Sunday rest
    My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song
    I thought that love would last forever; I was wrong.

    The stars are not wanted now; put out every one
    Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun
    Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood
    For nothing now can ever come to any good.”

    I will love you forever, David, the light of my life.

    Your ‘Nor

    • Someone who never met him, but has been touched says:

      this beautiful lovestory hurts so much. i hope there was a reason he was taken away from you. i hope you get to see him again someday.

    • Sarah says:

      My heart breaks for you, Elle! Thank you for making my brother so very very happy these past few years. Someday, when you are ready, you will have to share more David stories with me. I feel that, because I was away, I never really got to know the man he became to be. We were just starting to get close again. :'(

    • Mike Wilson says:

      Dear Eleanor –

      This is from your west coast Wilson cousins. To us you’ve been “Beamer” since birth.

      What a beautiful tribute to Dave. You have navigated this awful turn of events with incredible dignity and love along with what we know is fathomless sorrow. We are so sorry for your loss and wish we were not a continent away.

      Reading what you’ve written brought back the admiration we felt for the energy and adventurous spirit both you and Dave exhibited on your trip through California last year. In particular we loved hearing about the forray into surfing! Your great uncle “Ted” (my Dad) would have been impressed, as were we. It was wonderful to see intrepid travellers with such boundless enthusiasm for everything life offered.

      You are in all our thoughts, and prayers.


      Mike and Diana

    • Kellie says:

      To Eleanor-

      Your note has left me bawling my eyes out. My boyfriend and I used to live upstairs from David- he let us share internet with him. He truly was the kindest person- and when everyone talks about his smile- I know exactly what they’re referring to! I think you two must have started dating around the time that we moved in. I remember looking out the window and seeing you and Dave enjoying a nice outdoor bbq’ed dinner on a summer night. I also remember a time that I found comical- I think you were locked out of the condo (Dave must have been snoozing pretty good)- and you were relentlessly trying to wake him up to let you in! Eventually I woke up and let you in…my boyfriend and I laughed about it the next day, because that’s totally something that would happen to me!

      My heart breaks for the void that is left for you. You and Dave will always be in our thoughts. I hope and pray that, eventually, the void you’re left with will be filled with beautiful memories and the knowledge that Dave’s life was infinitely enhanced by having you in it.

  143. Bossie #2 says:

    Each morning as I drive to work and see the sunrise, I think of you. I think of you because you would love and appreciate it; I think of you because the same sun has already risen over your family and El and I know they are thinking of you too; I think of you because it is so beautiful that the only way I can make sense of you being gone is to believe that now each sunrise is your way of showing us all that you are still shining down on us with that amazing light you filled each moment with. I am endlessly grateful that I will forever be able to call you my friend, but struggle to make sense of the fact that there are no more new memories in our future, no more unpredictable Crazy Dave adventures. It does make me all the more grateful that the memories that we do have are so real, so vibrant and so full. God, I miss you. I promise that since I met you, I have lived a more beautiful life and even more so since your passing I promise to live each moment in this life for both of us. I’ll live to make people smile, to make people feel loved, to spread joy and laughter and to help love and protect El. We all miss you so very, very much.

  144. someone who never met him, but has been touched says:

    Thinking of Dave, his family and friends on Easter. I hope you are all feeling his love somehow.

  145. bgh says:

    “To Dad”
    B. G. Hart

    Dad, I’ll always be proud to be your pal
    I’m glad for the time we’ve had ’til now
    Don’t stay at home and drown in your tears
    I’m thankful for good times through all those years.

    Dad, I’ll always be proud to be your son
    Being together in all that we’ve done
    Laugh and live some of your life for me
    For this is how I would want it to be.

    Dad, I won’t forget you wherever you are
    At night look up–I’ll be that bright star
    When things seem too dark, I’ll always be near
    Keep me close to your heart; clouds will soon clear.

    Dad, this was my life and my time to go
    It’s not our decision–we never know
    Do me this favor for all to see–
    Live your life to the fullest in memory of me.

  146. Nancy and Don says:

    They had been dating for a while and it was time for David to meet the ‘rents. Eleanor had talked about him for a long time with such enthusiasm. We knew he was someone special. He walked in the house in a suit and tie with a bouquet of flowers for me (Nancy). Cool move. He had us at “Hello”. And he looked at a bookshelf in our livingroom and said, “I have that book! It’s my favorite!” It was “The Way Things Work” and it’s one of Don’s favorite books, too. We were off to a good start! He’d carried a brown grocery bag into the house, too, and once all the formalities had been dealt with, he asked if he could change into something more comfortable. In a few minutes he was in jeans and more relaxed attire. Funny guy. He made quite an impression. Don and Dave’s jobs centered around inventions and anything mechanical, so the conversation took off and they quickly became good friends.

    He had a motorcycle. Most parents would worry. But he gained our trust and we rarely worried (except rainy days…). She was in good hands. He was responsible. He would never let anything happen to Eleanor (or the bike). He invited me to jump on the back of the bike one day and took me for a ride. What fun! I hadn’t expected that invitation. He loved the loud muffler. Was very proud of that… 😉 He asked me for an old towel to clean his bike. I gave him one and he said “Hey, my mom had the same towels!” He saw our dishes and said “my parents have the same dishes!” He said he had the same Garfield sheet as a child and loved it. His snake’s name was Vita. Our daughter Anne’s dog was named Vida. Both sisters were doctors. Both fathers are Don. In fact, we found the two families had so many things in common, it became comical. When we all met it was comfortable and the conversation flowed. We became very close. And Dave became such a good friend to our son-in-law, Jason, who, by the way also owns a motorcycle.

    Perhaps we got to know Dave best when on our boat. There was plenty of time to talk and find out who this terrific guy really was. Don was totally confident with Dave taking over the boat alone. Needless to say, the boat moved a lot faster when Dave was at the controls. And he was anxious to travel outside our comfort zone and see more territory. One of the first times on the boat he asked Don if he had some polish to shine the chrome. Don did and Dave shined chrome the whole time we were on the water. I asked him to sit back, relax and enjoy the ride but he had to keep shining chrome. I felt so badly about it. He kept telling me to stop worrying. He was enjoying it. Our boat gleamed when we pulled up to the dock. And he’d always hose it off and make sure everything was secure and set before leaving it. We came up with a name for the boat and Dave offered to help put the decal name on it. It really took some doing and a neighbor told me the other day he loved watching Dave and Don with their measuring tapes and other tools making sure the boat name, “Eleanor of Aquatime” (a play on words from Eleanor of Aquitaine) was perfectly placed on the back of that boat. And Dave loved a good challenge. It was so difficult to back the boat out of the slip when the other boats were moored or tied up to the dock behind or around it. That was always a tense time for us. Dave loved it. No panic. He was able to steer it backwards and out of harm’s way.

    He spent a lot of time at our house in the three years they were together. We always loved seeing him come through that door with the smile on his face. He had such sincere eyes. We always got a big bear hug. He and Eleanor would hang out for a while and then take off on “the bike” to ride along the shore or visit friends. It astounded us, the number of friends they had all over the state and around the U.S.! They were always planning a wedding trip or a camping and canoeing/kayaking trip or hiking trip or skiing/snowboarding weekend somewhere, often at Loon Mtn. And they did those trips over and over again with the same large group of friends. I’d see some of those photos on Facebook and think of the organizing that went into each event. Eleanor and Dave went to the Keys in Florida and Eleanor met Dave’s aunt and uncle there. The photos of that trip were wonderful. We were so thrilled when Dave and Eleanor attended a wedding in California and met some of our close relatives out there. They rented a Mustang convertible and drove the coast with the top down, stopping to meet family and friends along the way. They even tried some surfing lessons! They lived life to its fullest. He had so many interests. He loved bocci and fishing, cooking and gardening and he was anxious to enter the next cardboard boat race in Manchester. He was sure he could make a cardboard boat that would stay afloat. We were sure he could, too. Dave loved hearing Eleanor sing at her gigs with her band and he supported her time spent painting and displaying her art. He encouraged her creativity. And he supported her when she changed jobs. He held down two jobs, himself and could fix anything. I remember him mentioning he didn’t watch much TV because there were too many other things to do.

    It’s been so difficult for our family to comprehend that Dave is gone. We’ve referred to their relationship of three short years as “a gift”. Things were so good. So right. They were so in love. They had bought a two family home and were to move in May. I had volunteered to paint some walls. A wedding would be next year. Plans were in the making. He had gone to buy Eleanor’s engagement ring. It was beautiful. He designed it. It seems the plan was for a band in the 4th of July parade to stop in front of our house and David would propose to Eleanor. His whole family would surprise us and be at our 4th party. How wonderful it would have all been.

    Oddly enough, Eleanor and Dave had chosen to dress as an elderly couple for Halloween. There was a very good possibility they would have looked like that in their elder years. They did a remarkable job.

    Ann Marie and Don, you did an exceptional job raising your son. You and Sarah and Krey, Jane, Robert and Tracy, Sal, Belisa and Michael and Nicholas and Mia and Ron and Sandy will always be family to us.

    We will miss Dave’s enthusiasm and help as we raise our large American flag this 4th of July and every year after. He will remain in our hearts forever.

  147. Ann Marie laduzenski says:

    I was reading to Don a book called “The Meaning of life” that I found in David’s condo. Why would such a young person purchase such a book in the first place? Anyway, it contains different peoples views on the topic. Some are a few sentences long while others a few paragraphs. Some were so deep that I could not understand them and others were frivolous. But when I got to this one, I had to read it twice. I spoke to me. How do you feel about it?

    Life is short in relation to time. Yet a specific amount of time is granted to us. It’s been said that from the minute you are born you begin to die. That, of course, is but one way of looking at it. Then again, why is life created if it is only meant to end? Why is it that our bodies last only so long and that resources are limited? Why is there disease, plague, famine, war, murder, suffering, and the question why? Who instituted the laws of nature, like gravity? Why do the planets circle in the manner that they do? Why do the seasons come and go without wavering? Why are we placed in the city, the country, and the circumstances that we are placed in? Better yet, why do we feel remorse over and sympathy for the tragedies mentioned above? Why is humankind attached at the heart? Why is it that you can fall in love, marry, have a family and be connected to another individual mind, body and soul? What are friends? Who are your friends? Why do we have enemies? Why have I envied and hated? We have so many questions, and it seems not so many answers.

    By the meaning of life, do we mean the sense of life? Or perhaps the significance? What about the purpose of life? That one is easy. The purpose of life is purpose. Life is created for purpose. One purpose, or many. Do we find our purpose? We can.

    How else can we explain the control around us? But that it is for certain purpose, of he who is creator. Why do certain events in time happen when they do? Because it is a “will” being performed.

    Find your purpose; it’s not hard. It’s written down for you. It is written in your heart and in your soul. It’s what binds you in affection to others. It’s what makes you feel awe at the inexplicable wonders of nature. It’s what calms our hearts and elevates our minds. My purpose is to serve. I’m a messenger. I’m a servant. Peace.

    Aaron Patino

    As I try to make sense of David’s senseless death, I also try to figure what purpose it served. That I do not know. What I do know is that David served his purpose according to God’s will. He brought people together. He made them feel good and in turn that made him happy. I am going to try to “pay it forward” by continuing David’s purpose. Let’s all try to find our own good purpose and make our time on earth a purposeful one.

    This vignette was found on page 29. David’s age.

    • Someone who never met him, but has been touched says:

      Mrs. Laduzenski: That is beautiful. Thank you. And amazing that it was found on page 29, his age. I am so deepy sorry for your loss. I hope to raise such wonderful children. You seemed to have done such an amazing job.

      • Sheryle Marceau says:

        As a neighbor and friend, I can say that Anne Marie & Don have unequivocally and absolutely done an amazing job raising their children. I just hope & pray to have been as good a parent!

    • Maura Bertolino says:

      Ann Marie Don,
      Eleanor read this excerpt aloud to me yesterday and I have to share with you how moved I am.
      This has really made my brain go on a roller coaster. So many good points to analyze over and so many good questions to dwell on. I would love to pay a visit with El over your house sometime and share the wonderful memories I am sure we all have. Please let’s keep in touch. Love you and Don on a level I never I thought was possible. xoxo Maura

    • bgh says:

      I imagine a great harp in the shape of a heart in Heaven with many, many strings. Each time another person is touched by Dave’s story, another string is added to that great harp…and the song’s message we hear becomes stronger and sweeter. And
      the Angel plucking the heartstrings is Dave, smiling.

    • someone who never met him, but has been touched says:

      I still come here everyday to see if I can learn another lesson from this man who lives in heaven, that I have never met. How profound that a soul has reached out to me… And it mimicks the way he touched people throughout his life on earth. God Bless the family and friends who live on and remember Dave.

    • Liz Wands says:

      Unbelievable. I just ordered this book myself on amazon. I myself have been asking many questions lately about the meaning of existence and the time we spend here together. I, too, believe that without friendship, companionship, and inter-personal connections, our time would be meaningless. It is through the fun times and sad times, and the emotional connections we make with people that connect us all.

  148. Maura Bertolino says:

    You can shed tears that he is gone,
    or you can smile because he has lived.
    You can close your eyes and pray that he’ll come back,
    or you can open your eyes and see all he’s left.
    Your heart can be empty because you can’t see him,
    or you can be full of the love you shared.
    You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday,
    or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
    You can remember him only that he is gone,
    or you can cherish his memory and let it live on.
    You can cry and close your mind,
    be empty and turn your back.
    Or you can do what he’d want:
    smile, open your eyes, love and ….go on.

    • bgh says:

      Thank you for these beautiful words. They are so thoughtful
      and encouraging and helped me see a loss of my own in a better
      perspective. I have copied and sent them to Germany to a young
      friend, an oncology nurse, who is mourning the loss of someone dear
      to her. I believe she will be grateful and share your words.

  149. Lora Finnerty says:

    When I met Dave at a neighborhood party I was touched by his smile and the glow beaming from Eleanor’s face . Reading some of these stories I see that Dave lived with an open heart and a curious mind. What a blessing! Thank you for the opportunity to share your wonderful connection with him. Blessings to you all!

  150. E.H. says:

    Hi, Love. I can’t believe I’m enduring this world without you right now. And I don’t know if I’ll ever believe it. I cry every time I think about you (like now), even at work… ugh.
    I’ll be talking to you on Thursday (through another medium). This time you better have your act together more, and not be throwing random ideas at the medium like last time. I expect clear, coherent sentences this time around. And I have specific questions lined up ready to prove just how great this medium is at chatting you up. So be ready!!
    We brought some flowers over to your grave yesterday… white ones… because you always wanted a white limo at our wedding and I wanted black… so in a sense, you win with that… but I get to keep that nifty pair of slippers you always flaunted, so ha. I love you more than words will ever be capable of conveying.

  151. Liz Wands says:

    Last week I had a dream about you. It was so real. We were in high school, or maybe the summer after freshmen year in college, I’m not sure. We were just hanging out, drinking, playing cards… Your smile was there, tangible, real. We were dancing. We were all laughing…

    When I woke up, I didn’t feel sad though. I felt as if I’d woken up from a good dream. I know you’re here with us: observing, helping, caring, and living vicariously through our every joyful and sad moment. But I still can’t believe you’re gone.

    Yesterday Tiffany, Emily, and Heather and I all got together to have a little barbeque before Tiffany moves to Indiana. When we were talking about who to invite and who was coming, Emily and I both murmured your name with Ed and Ryan’s. The realization still hasn’t set in. The weirdest part is that when we were all together last night, it turns out all of us have had dreams with you in them in the last week or so. All of us. And all of us felt that it was real when we woke up, in a good way.

  152. Maura Bertolino says:

    Hi Dave,
    We helped clean out the condo yesterday, and were there for the very last time. Your plants, flowers, and garden look great by the way, we were jealous. Being there and looking around brought back so many warm memories. One of the first things we saw was the picture frame we framed of you and El that we surprised you with on your first Valentine’s Day together. You guys had just finished up eating the vegetarian meal you had cooked for ‘Nor, and you so eagerly and proudly offered us some of your Dad’s homemade red wine. The same red wine that later on in the night I accidentally spilled on El’s new camera (oops!). A memory you never let me live down and loved to bring up often to embarrass me 🙂

    When cleaning out the drawers in the kitchen, I was instantly reminded of the first time we had ever been to your place. Greg, (just being Greg), took it upon himself to look in your kitchen cabinets to size you up, and see what kind of a chef you were. When he noticed how many different kinds of olive oil you had, and the superior quality, Greg (being a connoisseur of olive oil himself) immediately felt a close connection with Dave. Even though Dave was taken quite aback by Greg’s boldness to give himself a tour through the kitchen, he graciously went along with it. We often reminisced about that time, and laughed about it frequently.

    We made sure to take a moment to go in the backyard to reflect on some of the times we had back there, like that one time, when you had just come back from your annual fishing trip you had gone on with El and your fathers. Greg was upset he had to miss that trip because he loved fishing and had to miss that because of work. You knew his passion for fishing, so as soon as you got back you made sure to call and invite us over a grilled fish dinner. Greg was tired and a bit cranky, as he had just worked a 12 hour shift, and took a bit of coaxing to make the trek over to Somerville. But as soon as we got there, you did everything you could to cheer him up, which you did effortlessly just being you. That meal you cooked us up ended being perfectly well prepared, which included an array of vegetables and corn on the cob so El could partake in the feast. You even sent us home with 5 lbs of striper, which I think to this day, was his favorite present of all time. How generous you always were!

    You made your place to uniquely Dave, and when El moved in, you made sure to make it so “EllaDave”. El quickly felt that the place was equally as much hers as it was yours, because that was so important to you. What was yours, was El’s without question, and she instantaneously called it home. That was her safe haven. Her comfort zone. Her place of solace. Her refuge. And it was all because of you.

    We will always hold so many fond, close, memories when we think of the home on Waterhouse Street, “The Woodstock.” Thanks for all the unforgettable times.

    Love and miss you,
    Maura and Greg

  153. An old friend says:

    I dreamt of you last night. I was coming to visit you, but I’m not sure exactly where it was. It took a long time and there were many obstacles to conquer before I found you. When I did find you, it was beautiful. I climbed a large hill in a meadow full of lush green grass and wildflowers. Floating around in the air were snippets of memories and objects related to you. I had to climb a very tall tree/streetlight type structure, I can’t quite remember. There were a few wooden stairs very sloppily attached to the structure. Someone else was there, but I’m not sure who. That person was helping me all along find you. Finally, when I reached the top I saw you. That someone then dissappeared. You knew I was there, and I knew you knew that without words. I was breathless when I saw you, everything was so beautiful. The scene was this; A long, maybe about a 1/2 a mile, narrow body of water. Not just any water, something was magical about it. It was this gorgeous deep bluish/green color. It was crystal clear and I could see these tall seaweed like plants swaying back and forth in the water. There were mysterious looking trees all around, but they almost seemed alive. Everything had a soul, the trees, the water and the air. I’m pretty sure it was your soul all around, it felt like it. So there you are, in this magical water swimming like a fish. I sit on the grass and watch. I turn to my left and there is a black box with controls on it. There is a label that said day to night. I move a switch to night, and the sky goes dark and all these little glowing lights appear. You look up to me as that is happening, smile and continue to swim. We had a conversation without words while I sat there and you swam. We were talking about how much fun you are having, and yes you miss your old life, but you have accepted the new one. At first I felt this immense sadness when I woke up, but then I realized, that was you letting me know you are ok and happy.
    I saw others comments about friends having dreams about you recently. I do not think that is a coincidence. I think you are visiting all your friends in our dreams, letting us know you are thinking of us as much as we think of you. I hope you have found peace, and from my dream and all the others, I think you have.
    Eleanor, I have never met you, but I think of you often, praying that you find peace as well. It’s great you went to a medium to talk with Dave. I hope this next time you go, you have good luck connecting.
    I wanted to share my dream with everyone in hopes that you all will find a sense of happiness thinking of Dave. Although his physical body is no longer walking with us, I feel his spirit is watching over every thought we have of him.

    • someone who never met him, but has been touched says:

      I never met Dave or his Eleanor.. I have been sad about this since I heard, and saw Eleanor on the news… then saw this site. I have been so touched by this man.

      I have had two dreams about Dave. One was last night. He and Eleanor were together. Dave had no idea that he had gone away… and no one had the heart to tell him. Because he was so happy to see his beautiful fiance.

      The first dream was a short while after I was touched by this… And in the dream he introduced me to all of his friends. We were all having fun at a party. He brought us all together….

      I think I went to bed last night thinking of him because I read Eleanors post. It broke my heart.

      A few days after he passed…….. He was on my mind and suddenly my kitchen light went out. I knew that was him thanking me for my kind thoughts.

  154. Someone who never met him, but has been touched says:

    I visit this site more than once a day. There is a powerful force that I can’t let go of. I envy all of you and I hurt for all of you (and him) at the same time. I wish I had a friend like Dave. I can’t imagine losing a person like him. On a positive note: He lives on. If I can feel it, you must feel it too.

    • Someone who never met him, but has been touched says:

      Now i’m really crazy! I just found a $20 bill in my pocket. Immediately after I posted above. I straightened my pockets a few times today… And there wasn’t any money in there before. I know for a fact Dave apreciates my warm thoughts.

  155. Ann Marie Laduzenski says:

    Thank you for sharing your beautiful dreams. As I read the one about him swimming in the magical water, tears streaming down my face, an extremely loud crack of thunder made me jump. I think that was David telling me he is fine and to stop feeling so badly. But my heart aches and I miss him terribly!

    • Sheryle Marceau says:

      Of course it does, Ann Marie. You’ve been robbed of the most precious of God’s gifts: a child. My heart breaks for you more than you know. I have had dreams too, but before. More like premonitions, I guess. Maybe sometime , when you are ready, I can tell you about them. Over a glass of wine, ’cause we will both need it! Our sons were closer than you realize, I think, more like brothers.

  156. Kristina says:

    Having met Dave on only a few occasions, I simply feel blessed that I had the opportunity. I was devastated at the news of his accident and I still think of everyone involved each and every day as time goes on.

    I met Dave and Eleanor through my fiance (Adam), a few summers ago. I had heard about them, and how great of a couple they were, but didn’t truly understand that until I was in their presence.

    Adam plays drums in a band, and Eleanor and Dave met us out one night, for drinks and dancing. Before our formal introduction, I was hanging out, listening to the music and mingling with my friends. Out of the corner of my eye I noticed a couple, dancing and having a great time, as if no one else was in the room. They were simply consumed with each other, smiling and laughing. I couldn’t help but look at them and think “wow.” They were a stunning pair, in love and just happy to be enjoying the night together. As it turns out, this was Eleanor and Dave.

    After being introduced by Adam to them, we had a great night of laughter, swapping stories, and just enjoying new friends. It was within a few minutes that I knew these would be people I’d remain friends with for a long time.

    They stayed the night at our house, and the next day, we went on a boating trip. We enjoyed the sunshine, and I couldn’t help but notice how special Eleanor was to Dave. He smiled from ear to ear at each mention of her name, and he loved sharing stories about their relationship. He was an open book, ready and willing to share everything about his life to me, someone he had just met the night before. The four of us had a blast, and really respected and admired each other’s relationships. I was sad to see them go, but knew they would be a part of my life from that day on.

    Adam and I traveled to Boston to stay with Eleanor and Dave one weekend that fall. Again, within a few minutes of arriving at Dave’s condo, he made us feel as if we were at home. We were introduced to his motorcycle, and his snake! We had a blast at dinner that night, and went out afterwards for a few drinks. Despite having to get up early the next morning, they both stayed out with us, drinking and dancing the night away. We all crammed into a little booth at a local bar and took some photos. I look at the smiles on our faces from that night and remember the genuine happiness we all felt, we were having such a blast.

    Eleanor and Dave had to finally get some sleep, but encouraged Adam and I to stay out and enjoy ourselves. To ensure we wouldn’t get lost in an unfamiliar city, Dave wrote his address and phone number down on a napkin and made sure I stuck it in my pocket, so we would get back to their condo safely. This genuine concern came from him just loving everyone as if they were long time friends. I think he even gave us a spare key to use to get in that night. Our comfort at his place was important to him, and we did really feel right at home.

    His untimely death is just so saddening. My heart goes out to everyone that Dave knew and loved. I have cried many tears, but I know they don’t compare to the tears cried by those that are closer to this terrible situation. My hope is that everyone continues to persevere, bask in the good memories, and smile. Be thankful that such a great man touched so many lives in a short time, and may his memory continue to make us all better people.

  157. Rachel Belew says:

    I, too, wanted to share a dream that I had of Dave just a few days after he died.

    From the moment I heard the devastating news, I had been asking him–in my heart and mind–to please, PLEASE give me a message that I could deliver to my dear friend, Elle. She so desperately needed to hear from him to help ease her heartache and to confirm that he was still with her. I knew that Elle was too deeply in shock and mourning to be open to his “signs” just yet–so I thought that perhaps I could be a conduit.

    After a few days, it happened:

    Dave appeared in a doorway–a doorway through which beams of blinding white light shone–and he was smiling his great, big, Dave smile, as usual. He was wearing a simple white, button-down collared shirt. It was gossamer and ethereal. And he just stood there, smiling at me.

    Earnestly, I asked him: “Dave, why did your soul have to leave this earth so soon?” And, still smiling that great, big, Dave smile, he replied: “To give others life.” And, with that–still smiling–he stepped back through the doorway, into the light, and was gone.

    Having experienced the devastating loss of my own mother at age 19 and the loss of my father at age 22, I recently had the good fortune of asking, face-to-face, the renowned psychic medium John Edwards how to distinguish between a dream in which a passed loved one visits you and a regular, imagination-driven dream. John told me that if you remember a dream vividly, in detail, and in color–the way you might remember an actual experience that you had on this physical earth–and if that dream sticks with you as clearly and as vibrantly as the day you had it, then it is, without a doubt, a visit from a loved one.

    I tell you this because, from the moment I woke up that morning, I just knew with everything in my being that Dave had, in fact, visited me in my sleep. And that the message he delivered to me, I, in turn, was supposed to deliver to Elle, so that she could then pass on to Dave’s family and friends. Which she did.

    While it pains us all to know that Dave is no longer with us in his physical form–that we can neither hear his laughter nor see his contagious smile–his energy (his spirit) is still with us. And if we just open ourselves up to that notion, we might find some peace.


  158. This was from our “Lad Family Cruise”. On the cruise they have people who are on vacation try out for the talent show on one of the last nights. Whoever had won the “role” of James Brown backed out at the last minute. David tried out the night before the show and won the role at karaoke night. The rest is history. This was 2008-2009 new years cruise.

    • Pam says:

      That was awesome! Thanks for sharing!

      • Sheryle Marceau says:

        Sarah, that was great! Made me laugh so hard! What a great personality Dave was! Thanks for putting it on the site for all to enjoy..

    • MmmBoss says:

      Oh Sarah, thank you SO MUCH! I laughed and cried and felt the love for David that we all have and miss so much. The first visit my brother and I had with Dave and Elle consisted of a night at a karaoke bar, and low and behold this was his song choice. So nice to see it outside of my memories. My heart is with you and your family every day, and I can never thank you enough for the time I got to spend with Dave. He was a true blessing in this world. My love to you all.

    • Tiffany says:

      Fearless! That was great, thanks for sharing this one.

    • Anne says:

      What a character! He is larger than life!

  159. Meg Brideau says:

    Hi Dave,

    I am really happy you paid me a visit last night. I honestly was not expecting you. After a terrible few hours of tossing in bed and walking around the house, I didn’t think I’d be dreaming last night.

    For those of you not there in the dream:

    I walked into a hotel room and there was Dave waiting to hear me say, “Hi!”. Mostly just sitting there at the foot of the bed waiting for my questions that he knew I was itching to ask him.

    Me: WHOA!! You figured it out! We were waiting to hear from you. Do you know how to contact us now?

    Dave: Yeah (all smiles) I’m getting better at it. I’m working on it all the time…I should be able to get through pretty soon.

    Me: It looks like you’re pretty settled in. Are things okay where you are?

    Dave: It’s beautiful. I’m really loving it here.

    To see him relaxed and happy made me more at ease with his passing.

    So, Dave, I just wanted to let you know that I passed it onto Eleanor. She’ll be waiting to hear from you.


    • Rachel says:

      How BEAUTIFUL. That was so, truly, absolutely, 100% Dave visiting you in your dream so you could pass along the message to Elle!

  160. Prue Munro says:

    Dear Ann Marie and Don,

    As I made my way home from the Cape tonight I was thinking of Don and how today must have been unimaginably difficult for him and your family.

    Just a small note to let you know we’re thinking of you all and hope the memories you have of Dave were able to give you some comfort today. Our thoughts are with Don today on Fathers day and your family.

    In our thoughts and our prayers,
    Prue and Dimitrios

    In our thoughts and prayers,
    Prue and Dimitrios

  161. E.H. says:

    Love, we’re approaching 3 months and I’m no less in love with you than ever, nor am I ready to allow you to be only a memory. I just want my sweet baby back in my arms, kissing away my tears like you always did, and squeezing me so hard when I was sad that I forgot where the pain was… :(:(:(:( The 4th of July, our favorite holiday by far, will never EVER be the same, but this year the entire party at our house is for you, Love. And everyone we know will be there, for you. Every boat ride we go on, every firework in the sky throughout this patriotic month, every wave that splashes me on the beaches we used to visit, I will be thinking of you and missing you so painfully with every beat of my broken, lonely, useless heart. This is all just so damn unreal… These words are so useless, they can’t convey even one billionth of what I’m feeling with this indescribable void. I’ll never stop missing you, the love of my life.

  162. Someone who never met him, but has been touched says:

    never forgotten

  163. Elizabeth Andrew says:

    Last Thursday, I got together with Kelly (Clarke) Mann, one of my best friends from high school. This was the first time we had gotten together after many, many, years. First, Kelly came over to my parents’ house where we went through an old high school photo album I had pulled out. Naturally, all of the pictures were from one band event or another. Many of the pictures had Dave in them.

    Kelly and I then went to Ruby Tuesdays up at the Holyoke Mall. After eating, we decided to browse around a couple of stores. When we were inside the Gap, Kelly called me over to where she was standing. She said, “listen,” referring to the music being piped into the adjacent Gap Body store. After listening for a second I turned to her in amazement. The song was, “Zoot Suit Riot.”

    Kelly asked me, “When was the last time you’ve heard that!?” I replied, “Wow, not since high school jazz band!” It was a signature tune that the West Side Screamin’ Terrier Jazz Band played often. We immediately thought of Dave and couldn’t help but wonder if that song was some small way he was able to show us that even though he is no longer with us here on Earth, that he is never far away.

  164. Someone who never met him, but has been touched says:

    I love to read your blog 🙂 i admire you. stay strong.

  165. Rachel Kilmer says:

    My Dearest Dave,
    Yesterday I wore the orange shirt, which instantly made me a bit sad. Especially since this was the shirt I bought specifically to wear for you. You know how much I hate to wear colors that resemble my hair color ;). I really almost didnt wanna wear it, because I have been really stressed lately and thought that being sad on top of being stressed was probably a bad idea. But alas, I thought well lets roll with it. Dave wouldnt want me to be sad over orange, he would want the opposite! And maybe the orange will send me some good vibes. Then, as I was walking to the bus contemplating my outfit, a monarch butterfly in its orange glory flew right into my face. It disappeared as soon as it appeared! I wanted to take a picture of it, but it really was like it disappeared into thin air. I took this to mean you were happy I decided to wear the orange shirt, and so was I. I thought of you for the rest of the day. Then later on in the day, Timma asked about borrowing an old sprint phone since his was broken. So I go to give him the phone, and I cant find the charger anywhere. I had chargers for every other phone…but not that phone. It was like something did not want me to give Timma that phone! But then I remembered I still had another phone, an old flip phone from years ago. So after I dug this ancient phone out from its hiding place I started to go through the texts and outgoing calls and photos, etc. Turns out this was the phone I had when we lived together. So many texts and picture mails between us, yours of course signed ‘Crazy Dave Since 2000’ lol. It was so great to see all of that. So, coincidence or not, I started my day thinking of you and how we all miss you so much and wish you were here, and I ended my day thinking of you by reading your own words to me that I assumed had been long lost. It was very cool indeed. Love you Dave. XOXO!

    • Rachel Kilmer says:

      In my haste to post this I left out another important detail. One of the text messages asked me “Did you get both messages?” I believe I did!!

    • Someone who never met him, but has been touched says:

      After I read this post I went to sleep thinking about Dave and his seemingly amazing group of friends. The next day I kid you not, a big bright orange monarch butterfly flew in front of me. It disappeared quickly. I haven’t seen a butterfly all summer. It was certainly Dave. I haven’t even met the man and I’m so touched by all of you.

  166. Andrew Di Schino says:

    I only learned today of Dave’s passing and needless to say I’m shocked and saddened. My time knowing Dave was far too short, he was a genuinely nice guy and very smart and VERY funny. I often have though about the good memories I have of clubbing in Boston, skiing at Wachusett on the halfpipe while you and Dave snowboarded, and listing to Deep Dish Global Underground 19/Moscow for the first time and really getting into the music as a result. I also can remember a night where the expression “212” MIGHT have come into existence, but I’ll stop there and just say that it was a great night before we all went to Wachusett the next day. If I hadn’t met Dave, then that night at Avalon that precipitated my eventual move to NYC would have probably never happened, which means I probably wouldn’t be getting married this weekend. Dave changed all that for me by just having known me. My thoughts are with all of you who were really close to him, this is truly a tragic loss of a great man.

    Andy Di Schino

    • Andrew Di Schino says:

      I almost forgot to mention – I started this post as a reply to Adam Rosszay’s earlier post but left out his name by mistake, my apologies Adam!. If not for Dave I wouldn’t have ever met Adam.

      Another night I remember that I’m pretty sure involved Dave and Adam along with a lot of the 487 Mass Ave crew was going to the Roxy one Saturday night and everyone being hungry after it closed where it was then decided everyone was going to to go to Pompeii in the North End afterwards (not sure it’s still there, but it was open until 4AM, pretty much the best post-club spot there was). Off we went and eat we did, it was a late night as a I remember it. I also remember Avalon Boston on a couple of occasions with that same great group of people. Great times, and none of it would have ever happened if not for Dave.

  167. Vin Bartolomeo says:

    Belated condolences from one of David’s pistol shooting team members at the Concord Rod & Gun Club. We just found out about David’s passing from Eleanor as we have been trying to reach him regarding his participation this year, totally unawares of the tragic circumstances. David was an energetic competitor and a integral part of our team even though just on our squad for a single season. He will be missed.

  168. Kevin says:


    My sincerest condolences. I never met Dave, but I’m the webmaster for the CR&GC, and I’ve seen a few emails bouncing around from the club and he was well liked and respected. I’ve read some of your blog and it’s clear he was loved by many. I’m so sorry for your loss.

  169. Sarah says:

    Having a blue blue Christmas without you. You always were so thoughtful in the gifts you picked out. I don’t know if you ever realized that. 9 months tomorrow my little brother. We all miss you! Xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

  170. Anne says:

    There’s a stop sign I pass on my running route here in Portland. Like many stop signs around cities, this one has been altered. This particular sign, however, has no political message, no band to promote, nothing cryptic. Its message is direct, invoking self-reflection, and every time I run past it I think of Dave. It has been amended with a sticker to say: STOP. NOW IS ALL YOU HAVE. Not only does this sign provoke me to evaluate whether or not I’m living my life on track, but I reflect on how Dave lived his own life according to its message. For the rest of my run, I am filled with the urgency to live life the way Dave lived his: with mindfulness, passion, courtesy, confidence, and soul. I am filled with a sense of gratitude for my feet, gratitude for this day, and gratitude for the opportunity to have known someone with such lust for life.

  171. 212 says:


    Sticking to tradition I would like to say Happy Ultimate Two Twelve David!

    I have already received signs you are aware of this day, this double dose of two twelve. Today will be a day full of 212’s. I remember the very first 212, on Boston Commons. Seems like yesterday but it was 12 years ago now. Wow time flies… I would have never thought you wouldn’t be here for the year 2012. But today is a day I will remember you, with orange, gray and two twelve all around!
    It’s funny I just looked at the ticker at the bottom of the page and it says 117,212 ha! One more 212 on 2.12.2012!!!!!!!!

  172. Kori says:

    Hello friend,
    It seems strange to think that this time last year we were all hanging out on the ski trip no worries or cares in the world. Eating chocolate covered waffles on the mountain, hot tubs and beers back at the house. Remember that awesome picture I took of you the year before when you guys were doing flips into the snow? I love that picture. El and I had brunch the other day, which I’m sure you know, and walking back to the T some lady did an awful parking job and could’ve ended up with a flat tire if I hadn’t pointed it out to her. After this I happened to mention to “pay it forward” and El and I reminisced about the last time we talked about paying it forward on the mountain when you gave those guys your ski passes and when they wanted to pay you told them to pay it forward. That phrase is now branded in my mind about you. Miss you.

    P.S. Thanks for looking out these past few months….much love

  173. Michelle says:

    Hi Dave – You’ve been on my mind a lot lately with significant dates happening this time of year. So much has changed since you were with us. I know you had strong political views, much different than mine, and I so wish that you were around to debate with. I would love to know what you think of the recent circus. If all goes well I will be hitting the slopes this weekend, thanks to this last chance snow storm (I am sure you fought mother nature hard for it!). I cant wait to see that orange sunset from the peak on my last run, exhausted and happy, knowing you’re out there snow boarding with the same goofy smile everyone misses. Shine on CZD!

  174. Sarah says:

    Miss you…

    Where the Sidewalk Ends by Shel Silverstein
    There is a place where the sidewalk ends
    And before the street begins,
    And there the grass grows soft and white,
    And there the sun burns crimson bright,
    And there the moon-bird rests from his flight
    To cool in the peppermint wind.

    Let us leave this place where the smoke blows black
    And the dark street winds and bends.
    Past the pits where the asphalt flowers grow
    We shall walk with a walk that is measured and slow,
    And watch where the chalk-white arrows go
    To the place where the sidewalk ends.

    Yes we’ll walk with a walk that is measured and slow,
    And we’ll go where the chalk-white arrows go,
    For the children, they mark, and the children, they know
    The place where the sidewalk ends.

  175. Someone who never met you but has been touched says:

    You have touched me, as if we’ve connected on some other plane. My, what charisma and strength you have.
    Thank you.

  176. Raich says:

    Just thinking of you a lot lately and missing you. xoxo.

  177. Ann Marie Laduzenski says:

    Just wanted you to know, David, that the trial date has been set for March 19. Justice may be served two years after the date you were struck. I will be looking for you in the courtroom. I know you will be there! Love you, bye, Mom

  178. E.H. says:

    To anyone interested in attending David’s killer’s trial:

    Here’s the article on Masslive:

    The trial is expected to run ~5 days (weekdays only, starting on Tues. the 19th, ending on the two year anniversary of the day the killer actually struck David in the driveway, Monday March 25th). We welcome anyone to come who’d like to show their support, and it would absolutely mean the world to us.

    >>Jury selection takes place first thing in the morning on the 19th.

    >>You can come and go as you need to during the trial – it’s an open court room with a 20 minute break in the morning and a lunch hour of 1-2 pm. Day ends at 4:00.

    >>Dave’s favorite colors were orange and grey; so while the criminal-loving court system finds it offensive and inappropriate to represent the victim with a PIN OR A PHOTO of the poor guy during the trial over HIS VERY DEATH, we encourage you to wear his colors, to remain compliant with the twisted “justice” system.

    12 days and counting…

  179. Sarah says:

    David, tonight is the 2nd anniversary. There was a big full moon rising over the ocean tonight. I’d like to think it was you.

    We received a huge setback this week, but we won’t give up. We will continue to seek justice for you!

    I hope I see you in my dreams.

    Love you, kid.

  180. Mom says:

    Your spirit is with us each day of this trial. I am trying to get justice for you, David. Please help us out!

  181. Gail says:

    I knew David from West side high school band that he and my daughter were in. I have been watching and waiting for the day that justice would be done. David did not deserve to die and I am sad that this happened. My prayers have been with your family. I am also sad that Leary did not get a life sentence in jail as that is what he gave to you and your family. I will continue to pray for your family.

  182. Ann Marie Laduzenski says:

    Happy Birthday, David. We love and miss you.

  183. Ann Marie Laduzenski says:

    Three years ago today you left this world. We have received your messages, but we still miss you terribly.

  184. An Old Friend says:

    Just wanted to say you’re in my heart still Dave, you will be forever. I have been getting a lot of messages from you lately but the other day I received another message that was so on point it was amazing. After I gave it a little thought, it was obvious what you wanted to show me. A long time ago we joked about trying to make another 2:12, but how could we do that? How could we top 2:12? We couldn’t and we knew that. We looked at the clock and it said 7:17. The next few weeks we tried to make it significant but couldn’t, it just wouldn’t work. We forgot about it, nothing ever came from it. The other day when you came to me in my dreams, you made me remember our last conversation that we ever had and how I have it on my computer still. I was wondering why you were trying to show me that, it wasn’t any kind of a significant or in depth conversation. I looked at it and saw that our last words were spoken to each other at 7:17.

    See you on the flip side.

  185. Jared says:

    Was thinking of you today bud. Just wanted to say I still think of you and hope you’re getting a lot of miles on your bike up there. It was a shorter than I’d like riding season this year for me due to work and other commitments. I hope there’s no one on cell phones riding around in heaven where you are. Anyhow, two down-one up

  186. Mom says:

    There are not the words to say how much we miss you.

  187. Sarah says:

    Four years. Today. You will be in my heart forever. Love you always.

  188. Mark G says:

    I’ll never forget you, Dave. You were one in a million.

  189. Jared says:

    Just reminiscing about you today bud. I have a friend, a new friend, like you were, looking to get their first Harley. It brought back great memories. Always in my thoughts and prayers, ride on Dave……

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